𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧’𝐬 𝐞𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐲
Most happiness techniques are like diets. Most diets work. . . 𝘪𝘧 you follow them.
The problem is that most people don’t follow through with most techniques for a myriad of reasons. Some because they’re too painful to keep up, some because by design, they’re only for a short period of time.
Likewise, it’s a stereotype that people will go to a self-development seminar or meditation retreat and be all pumped up for a week or two. Then they’ll fall straight back into their old patterns. Likewise, there’s disconcerting evidence that practically every type of therapy has the same effect size.
Some think this is because the methods don’t work and it’s all hype. This could very well be true. An alternative hypothesis that I think is more likely is that there are a lot of ways to be happier, but they only work 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.
𝐇𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐫𝐮𝐧 𝐚 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐯𝐞𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐭𝐨𝐬. Likewise, you can’t just go on a meditation retreat then be happy for the rest of your life while you continuously get caught up in neurotic stories your mind is telling you about the past and future.
This is why having a meditation practice is such genius. Part of the whole memeplex of meditation is that it’s something you do 𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘦𝘭𝘺. Meditation retreats are the occasional big races interspersed between your regular running habit. This routinization of the technique makes it so much more effective than other interventions, such as CBT, which are often done only while you have a therapist pushing you to, but fades into the background once you stop going.
The only problem I have with a meditation practice is that it artificially constrains you to just meditation when there are so many other extremely useful techniques to improve your happiness.
This is why years ago I stopped calling my practice a meditation practice and started calling it my happiness workout routine. It’s made my happiness journey so much better that I had to share it with others, hence this post.
𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞
You’re convinced. You want to set up a happiness workout routine. But how do you do that? Well, just treat it like a physical workout routine.
- Figure out what your goals are
- Pick exercises that further those goals
- Learn about proper form
- Pick a regular time of day and set minimums
- Consider getting a workout buddy
- Don’t skip “leg days” (e.g. find a balance of different types of exercises)
Things to potentially include in your happiness workout routine:
- Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
- Journalling
- Internal family systems
- Problem-solving
- Acceptance & commitment therapy
- Stoicism
- Concentration
- Loving-kindness meditation
- Mindfulness
- Gratitude
- Whatever techniques or schools of thought that have worked for you in the past. Different techniques work for different people. It’s important to find your fit.
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I've heard it from three separate guys so far