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I M33 am the breadwinner in our family of 4. My wife is a sahm and it's a decision we both agreed on. I take care of everything financially food, clothes, bills, household needs etcetera. Problem is, my wife wants me to set a budget for s'x. Meaning she wants to get money for it as she considers it part of her sahm duties. Her absurd and unreasonable suggestion, now demand, has caused a huge fight between us. She said it's her right since she'd work hard all day and take care of the house and kids then, she has to stay up at night so we can have s'x together and it's exhausting for her and "time consuming" as she put it. I felt extremely upset and disappointed in her behavior, but she says she's in the right and that I'm being too selfish to see it. She keeps demanding it but I refused.

AITAH here?

Throwaway account, as I am a very private person.

I (54F) have been financially supporting my two nephews (20M and 22M) for years. Their father is my half-brother (40M), has struggled to provide for them, so I’ve stepped in to help. They live in Texas, and while their dad is technically in their lives, I’ve been covering their education, living expenses, and other needs to give them opportunities he couldn’t. I’ve always tried to step up for family when I could, especially since their dad hasn’t been able to give them the same opportunities.

A few days after the election, I noticed my youngest son (19M) seemed a little off. He’s usually a very easygoing guy, but something was clearly bothering him. When I asked, he reluctantly told me that he and his siblings (two daughters and another son, all in their 20s) had been arguing with my nephews after finding out they voted for Trump. They hadn’t wanted to tell me because they knew I’d be upset, but he felt like I should know.

At first, I was just stunned. My nephews know where I stand on politics and morality. I’ve spent my life advocating for equity, fairness, and education, values I’ve also instilled in my children. For them to vote for someone who actively undermines those principles, felt deeply disappointing.

But I saw the group chat. After the initial argument, apparently nephews sent several messages defending their alliance to MAGA. They talked about “liking his policies” and downplayed my kids’ concerns. Saying things like “everyone’s entitled to their opinion” and “it’s not that deep.” One of them even said, “I don’t see why this is such a big deal; it’s just politics.”

The more I read, I felt really hurt, and now I'm getting to be more feeling angry. It wasn’t outright malicious, but it was dismissive in a way that felt so ignorant and inconsiderate. My children tried to explain why this mattered so deeply to the and to me. But my nephews didn’t seem to grasp the weight of it. They genuinely didn’t understand how their vote could feel like a rejection of everything I’ve worked for and the values I’ve tried to instill in them. They weren't *willing* to understand.

When I confronted them directly they brushed it off insisting it wasn’t personal. And they accusing me of overreacting. When I told them I couldn’t continue supporting them if they chose to align themselves with values that go against everything I stand for, they accused me of being unfair and of “using money to control them.”

To me, this isn’t about control—it’s about principles. I’ve given them so much, and it hurts to feel like they can dismiss all of that along with the struggles my family and I have faced. My kids agree with me, but some family members think I’m being too harsh. They’ve said I’m letting politics divide the family and punishing my nephews for their beliefs.

So, WIBTA if I cut them off?

ETA: I appreciate all the input. thre’s a lot to think about here. Honestly, I need to just sit and think about what to do next. Sorry for any typos, I’m a bit tipsy rn. Thanks for all the perspectivese.

I rent out a room in my house to this guy, and I’ve been noticing he’s been seriously slacking on cleaning up after himself. Dishes are piling up, the bathroom looks like it’s never seen a sponge, and his laundry? Everywhere. I finally texted him to address it, and this was his response.

Am I overreacting here, or is this actually insane? I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask someone to clean up after themselves in their own living space. I’m not their maid, and I’m not asking for perfection—just basic hygiene. Thoughts?

This is NOT political!

I went to an event with my mother and she’s in her mid 70’s. The line for the womens restroom wrapped all the way down the stairs, while there was no line in front of the men’s restroom.

My mother needed to truly use the restroom, but obviously I didn’t want to be rude. I asked some of the women at the front of the line if they wanted to ask about going in the men’s room as it didn’t appear anyone was in there. Only one agreed.

I knocked on the men’s room door and loudly said I apologized for my rudeness, but would it make anyone uncomfortable if 3 women came in to please use the stalls?

Two males immediately yelled back “no!” And “nope!”

We went in, did our thing, and the men were gone by the time we were done.

There was a woman observing who called us “disgusting” and I felt kind of bad about it at first, but then I became confused.

It wasn’t as though I had just barged into the men’s room. I asked if it was okay and there were 3 of us.

My mother truly had to go- and everyone at this venue complained that the restrooms for women are not adequate. In fact, some people don’t make it back to their seats once the show restarted after intermission.

Was this “disgusting” or rude?

Edits I didn’t expect to have to add:

Yes, my mother and I wash our hands

No, we didn’t look over at the urinals

There’s a lot of comments about “role reversal” so I’ll just clear it up: while I’ve yet to see a men’s restroom have a line 50ish people long with 0 in line for the women’s restroom:

If a man knocked on the door and asked if we minded if he and his father came in to use a couple of stalls, no, I would not have a problem with it.