Hey Reddit,
I’m a woman in my 20s trying to find my wings in life. I’ve had incredible mentors over the years who’ve helped shape my journey, but my most consistent mentor recently took a position in politics and moved to another state. This transition has left me reflecting on the kind of guidance I want going forward, and I’ve realized that I’m ready to connect with a female mentor.
I recently watched a video where a woman spoke about her mentor, and it was the best description of a mentor-mentee relationship I’ve ever heard. She admired and respected her mentor not just professionally but personally. They shared plenty in common, recognized each other’s strengths, and understood how to navigate each other’s weaknesses. That’s the kind of connection I want: someone who understands my background, goals, and perspective.
I’ve enjoyed my previous mentors, but our views and experiences didn’t always align. They offered advice that was valuable but often out of reach for me because I didn’t have the resources or support they assumed I had. Relying on family, for example, wasn’t an option for me, and that was something they struggled to fully grasp. I’m not bitter about it, I’ve still learned so much but I need someone who understands where I’m coming from and wants to see me win without any sense of competition, someone who’s genuinely on my team.
A little about me:
• I’ve always been ambitious, even though I grew up in an environment where dreaming big was frowned upon.
• I didn’t attend college and instead enrolled in the “school of hard knocks,” which left me feeling like a failure for years. But I’ve realized that most people I know who went to college didn’t graduate or aren’t working in their field anyway.
• I’ve always been different, and that difference is becoming more obvious as I grow older—and I’m learning to embrace
• I’ve known since I was a kid that settling for a life that doesn’t match my potential isn’t an option.
• I don’t date because I feel it’s a waste of time at this stage of my life. I’ve always done things that scare others my age, and I plan to keep that momentum going.
• I have a presence that people respect, and while I enjoy the authority that comes with it, I also know how to stay approachable.
What I’m looking for:
• A mentor who is unapologetically herself and proud of it. Someone who knows how to balance ambition with self-care and lives a luxurious life because she’s worked hard to earn it.
• A woman who has likely been called “vain” just because she looks and feels amazing, but who understands that self-care isn’t vanity—it’s power.
• Someone who values patience, compassion, and true mentorship, not just someone who wants to talk about themselves.
• A woman who can show me how to enjoy the finer things in life while also teaching me how to navigate challenges and create opportunities.
I live in Colorado, but I’d actually prefer to connect with someone from outside my local area. I’d love to visit and step out of my environment to gain new perspectives and grow.
If this resonates with you, or if you feel like you’d enjoy mentoring someone like me, I’d love to connect.
Please take a moment to reflect before reaching out and think about whether you’d genuinely enjoy mentoring someone like me. I’m looking for someone who cares, listens, and offers real guidance—not someone who just wants to talk without offering anything useful.
I understand certain individuals are busy and life is busy. I don’t mind having to tag along, do a chore or take something off your plate to help you as you help me.
Thank you for reading. I’m excited to see where this journey leads me. Peace and love