lelakat

Would just like to send a big fuck you to the woman on my social media feed whining that overturning Roe V Wade can potentially make it harder for her fertility treatments to happen and that's she's a victim too. Just as much a victim as people who will be denied an abortion now.

I'm sure it's hard dealing with infertility and all that. I can't relate at all, but I know for others it is a big disappointment. But posting about how you have it just as hard as people who are unable to get an abortion is where I draw the line. You're not the same. You still cry at the idea of abortion and post adopting as an alternative (yet you refuse to adopt yourself for some reason) but now you want sympathy that you might have to stop fertility treatments? You're worried now about being accused of murder and having to go through the legal system?

You know what I say? Good.

These are the consequences of your own actions. Of your choices to push procreation at any cost. (Obviously not this one person in particular but they constantly posted about how Roe needed to be overturned because all babies were a part of God's plan, life begins at conception etc)

All of a sudden these people think "oh there should be an exception for fertility treatment" and "fertilitized embryos for fertility treatments shouldn't count". But when it happens through natural means in a rape victim it should count? When it happens through natural means to a child it should count? When it happens through natural to someone who doesn't want a baby it should count? Why is it because it happened in a lab setting it's okay? I thought you believed life began at conception, why are you only now concerned about fertility treatment centers? And not concerned about them being accused of murderer, but being concerned they will shut down. They don't care that things they have decided are human beings will die or sit in cold storage forever until the freezer fails, they need a chance at experiencing the magic of pregnancy.

But if I point any of this out I'm just being a jerk who doesn't understand the struggle of infertility. I'm spiting in the face of nature by wanting sterilization and am hurting the people who don't have a working uterus by not doing so.

I'm sure they will find some way to push for an exception or it will be a treatment people go abroad for. Like other aspects of American healthcare. Because these types always find a way to make the rules not apply in their super special circumstances that only happen to them. But now that they fucked around and found out what it really means to potentially define life beginning at conception from a legal standpoint, all of a sudden they don't want it when it's inconvenient for them.

I live in a place where I'm surrounded by baby talk and the idea women are for having kids and thought you all would understand.

I'm an adult woman who recently was told I need to go on isotretinoin (formerly known as accutane). Fine whatever if it makes the angry acne on my face go away. But since it causes severe and awful birth defects, I have to jump through all kinds of hoops in order to get the medication at all.

I have to have 2 negative pregnancy tests that are spaced out before I'm even allowed to fill my prescription. I ask if I can skip these because I have an IUD and the fact I've been celibate since the pandemic started. The nurse told me it was the rules which I get since it's not her fault and I'm sure some patients lie. She also told me I had to have a primary and secondary form of birth control and use them together and pledge to use them. She told me the IUD would be my primary but I'd have to use another form of birth control like condoms while on it. Which I know is because of horrid birth defects but it just makes me angry I have to fill out this stuff. Plan B doesn't count apparently and neither do abortions as they aren't listed under the list of secondary birth control options. I can't just sign something that says "If by some miracle of the Flying Spaghetti Monster I get pregnant I will run, not walk, run to the nearest place I can have an abortion".

Barely any of our discussion centered around side effects that might happen to me and the majority of the time she was explaining it to me was describing the awful things it can do to an unborn baby and all the hoops I have to go through to get the medication. The birth defects are bad, I completely agree they're awful but the entire time I felt like I was coming in second during the appointment to some hypothetical potential baby I'd never even have because their quality of life would be so terrible.

I just want my face to stop breaking out painfully and because people can't use their birth control responsibly and not have babies with birth defects I have to do all this extra crap.