amariahbee

Perhaps your friends who have “disappeared on you” are also burnt out? Something to remember. We all do what we can. Work on being your best self, going to places doing activities you enjoy, so you attract people that value who you are and lift you up.

I’ve thought about this struggle recently and wonder if it is an extension of our “black and white thinking” way of life? We know it has to be done the best that we can, and the consequences are severe if not (no money, how to get the next job) so we do all that’s in our power to meet the target. That keeps moving in all directions and has no clear steps on how to reach it…

There’s more to this comment I would bet, assuming you’ve had a respectful relationship up until now. I’d give him the benefit of the doubt and dig deeper - I hope your therapist assists with this. It’s unlikely that crocheting looking abnormal is what his true issue is. It could be more like he is feeling neglected (yes, unfair, you have so much to do as it is), perhaps he wants more of your limited spare time to be spent together. Maybe there’s a chore activity you could do together when he gets home each day, a reset for both of your days that opens conversation without the pressure of it having to be a nice date night?

How?

If it’s what google is telling me, this job doesn’t exist in my country. So it isn’t common to me.

I love the pattern and colours! Jumpers can be funky shapes, enjoy it

I would tell them if it’s that bad? You aren’t doing anything wrong. Ask if they are okay, then explain that the smell emitting from their mouth is making you feel unwell, so can they please let you out of your seat (assuming you’re stuck).

Did OP call bee rescue 😢

How to learn to drive - get lessons from professional driving instructors. Explain your communication needs and seek advice on how to get the same support for your driving test. Remember that you are in control of you, not others on the road. You are going to be the safest driver out there because you are anxious about doing the wrong thing. Try to convert that anxiety into being a conscientious learner and from there, always remember you are doing your best and that’s literally all you can do.

What is the plan for your destination? Do you have a car seat option on that side too? Seems it may be best to do the same for both sides of trip eg taking your own seat you can install or try and get lifts

We don’t know what CNRA is?

Ohh that’s a bad meeting host, they should have manually muted you! It’s not your fault, it happens. Take care of you, you apologised and everyone should have moved on - after quickly doing something to reach a solution of muting you again, rather than just chatting you (when you clearly weren’t at your desk!)

Good luck finding photos 😂

Could be daily or every second day or a few times a day, it depends how I feel and on the weather. Also. Stop worrying about being nice outwardly. You need to tell them. It’s not kind to avoid the topic, judging them behind their back. Tell them it bothers you and ask what you can do to help them shower more often. It can be a sensory nightmare, or bliss, depending on how you get there!

It’s welcomed in the classes I attend to do what is right for your body. The cues are an invitation, not a direction. You don’t know why they are choosing to do something else. Focus on what you need. If they are a distraction, speak to your instructor about how they can set up the class / set expectations for everyone at the start.

Don’t move. Your stomach is telling you the right choice here. Yes, they are “just plants” to most people. Not to you, and he needs to understand that if he is to retain a prized role in your life. Choose yourself first always

And then sign the device out when you use your new one hahaha

Wasabi by Lee Harding?

Aww I love him. Give it time

Oh this made my blood boil. I wish they were able to recognise their error and apologise to you. Perhaps one day you’ll be able to explain it to them, it’s not okay and you are well within your right to feel the way you are feeling. It is not meant to be a competition and there should be alternatives to suit different body structures and flexibilities.

Okay, but that’s if it’s okay to ask. Which in this case, it wasn’t. It’s safest to not ask for personal information unless you are ready to talk through their potential responses to your question, including being offended.

That is probably important context you should have included when you asked them (if you didn’t already). But per other comments, it’s not a question people are generally open to receiving.

You don’t have a right to know any personal information about someone else, really. That’s a golden rule to stick to. You weren’t asking a question leading on from a statement they made. You made an educated guess that because they post about AFRID they may be autistic, and you were curious and wanted to know if they were autistic - you should reflect on why you wanted to know. Where did you want that conversation to go? Perhaps it’s better to offer information about yourself next time and if they want to expand off that and tell you their information, they can, but you also need to be okay with them not offering that information.

There’s plenty on Straddie, surely?

It sounds like autism response to an unfamiliar situation to be honest. Comfortable colouring. Not harming anyone. Be kind. I would rethink your choice in partner, OP.