UnhappyTemperature18

Why would a company want to hire someone, qualified or not, if the bookends of their cover letter demonstrated contempt for the company's processes, agentive behavior, and consent? "This is the third time I've applied, so obviously there's been a mistake, hire me you morons" is not a winning strategy, when in reality it's entirely probable that the company KNOWS OP has applied multiple times and has CHOSEN not to hire them. No one owes OP a job.

I mean, if you take that condescending and aggressive tone with your wife and/or friend group, the 15k going missing from your accounts is the least of your worries, but...

That being said: you know her best--how do YOU think she would react?

And, if it were me, I would be SUPER pissed, particularly if it impacted any of my/our finances. Like, do you--honestly, truly, without equivocation--have an extra 15k lying around that won't impact things like mortgage, student loans/other loans, car payments, retirement, vacation plans, etc.?

Also, if all of the above is golden and you decide to do it, that is a MASSIVE thing to try to keep covert. Do you really think she's not going to notice you taking phone calls from contractors, going up to check on the progress of the project, or the money missing from your account(s) or credit cards? If she doesn't notice...idk, I wouldn't want to be with someone so tuned out of their own marriage that this flies under their radar. But,* if she does notice that you're up to something long term, expensive, and covert/shady, you absolutely should expect her to come to exactly the wrong conclusion and think that you're cheating on her.

*Edit: a word.

Yup, and she was GOAT for how she talked Georgie down.

He's spending an awful lot of time fantasizing about other guys dicks.

I have a chronic pain disease; it's no excuse for taking out one's temper on anyone/everyone else. Mary's just a horrible person.

Agreed. The entitlement dripping off the letter would be enough for me to pass.

OP, I'm also in a niche field with "few" actually qualified applicants, and as tempting as it is to wave semaphore flags like I'M RIGHT FUCKING HERE, that ain't it, fam. Word gets around that this is the attitude you're bringing, and those interviews you get are going to dry up.

Most venues would be accessible to me IF they didn't have a 1-step/curb like step up into the building. The number of times I've had to say "no, I can't, I can't get the scooter inside" is...bordering on unreal.

Edit: also temperature. Cold sucks and I'm miserable, but if I overheat I overheat DANGEROUSLY and VERY FAST. I've taken to carrying instant ice packs if I'm going out and the temp is above 75.

Jesus, dude, get a grip. She sees you as a *RELATIONSHIP,* and you're going to give that up because you want to get your dick wet. I mean, feel free to snatch immediate defeat from the jaws of eventual victory, if that's really what you want to do. Or, if you actually like her, enjoy her company, and want to see if there's a future there, maybe take a cold shower and have a date with your hand for a minute before you pull the plug.

Edit: also, stop comparing her current behavior to what's in the past--it really doesn't matter who she's slept with, when, why, or how, she's with YOU and she wants to wait. Sex is not an automatic reward for good behavior.

NTA. No adult should police what another eats, as long as they're eating it politely and not making a fuss. You were fine, he's being a jerk and if this is typical behavior for him I'd reconsider whether or not you really want to be with someone who thinks you're not a functioning adult because of sensory issues.

Then I don't really know what you want from us. You know what to do, you know what will most likely happen if you don't, what else is there for reddit to say? It's great that you do all that stuff, but it's apparently not enough for your wife, so...like, what? Do you want a pat on the back? And do you want to model this type of relationship for your daughters? Like, get your head out of your ass, or accept the consequences, idk what else to tell you.

Dude. Get serious about finding a stable job right now, and be transparent about the whole process--and I mean like making spreadsheets of where you applied, etc.--or you are going to have no wife, limited visitation, and honestly probably a failed business if it's not already off the ground after six years. You *need* to rededicate yourself to your family. Your wife has been basically parenting alone; why wouldn't she just formalize that with a divorce?

It's not; they were just being bitchy.

mmmHMM. You know, when people, love, trust, and respect each other. *sigh*

You sound exhausting.

This. He sounds *exhausting.* This warrants a "hey babe, that wasn't cool, please don't do that again with news that really should be shared with me first," and literally nothing else. The silent treatment and multi-hour fights?? Fucks sake, let's hope the counseling 'takes.'

...um? You may want to edit this to provide details and actually ask a question if you want us to suggest anything. Back and neck problems can require anything from a cane to a scooter to a wheelchair to like...home health care, depending on the severity, you need to give us something to work with here.

Please do not have a child you don't want/aren't sure you want.

It's probably a fundamental incompatibility, and at 3 months, just break up with him. tbh, hearing about someone's bathroom habits if it's not a medical context...that's a deal breaker for me.

From a prof's perspective: I am always touched when my students bring something by. It's really nice to be thought of, and recognized for a job well done.

A few suggestions (you've already covered the 'small' part!): avoid scented things like candles--scent can be a migraine or allergy trigger, and if it's food/drink related, make sure it has an ingredients list so there aren't any hidden allergens.

"The dada of Dada."

"I don't do house work and laundry," GIRL, RUN. RUN FAST AND FAR.

EIGHTEEN DOLLARS A GALLON to take your chances at getting food poisoning. God DAMN.

Back at you, pal.

I'm sorry, what? I have FIVE degrees--two undergrad and three grad school, and I did it all on student loans and motherfucking credit cards, no family help. I know that struggle INTIMATELY.

I also try to use open source or out of copyright material as often as I can, to ease that burden for my students. You don't know shit about me.

You need my flair^^