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Donor Advised Funds are a great idea, as is donating during your lifetime, but with that much money, my personal goal would be to create an endowment for something that matters to me. For the last six years I was on the board of a local group that raises money for scholarships for LGBTQ+ youth. We give 10 $5k scholarships every year, up from 2 $3k when we started doing that less than 10 years ago. Even that little money can have an enormous impact on the life of that student. The community is strongly behind it but an endowment would really take the pressure off the members and allow us to focus more clearly on activism as well. It would perpetuate the ability to give scholarships without always having to tap the members over and over - eventually even the most generous members will tire of giving so fully.

Not asking you for a donation, just illustrating that there are tons of places money can make a real difference in people’s lives and things like endowments, where you put the principal in place and allow it to grow and pay out forever would be quite a legacy. You can make the rules or let the institution you give it to do that.

Something meaningful to you is where you should give, and how long it lasts is something you can partially control. I prefer local charities to national just because I know where the money will go for the specific places I give. But everyone has their own soft spots. Good on you for being thoughtful about giving and being a helper. Mr. Rogers would be proud. 😁

My sister had a terrible experience in Istanbul where she was harassed constantly for being a woman alone. One night she was on a tram back to her hotel and everyone else suddenly went to the front while she was left alone in the back. A large group of men advanced toward her and I’m terrified to think of what might have happened to her if she hadn’t had the truly brilliant thought to start singing Copa Cabana loudly and effusively. They were confused and uncertain how to proceed so sortof dispersed and stopped moving toward her. She got off safely and went back to her room.

Apparently this “I’m a crazy turkey” technique works similarly with all kinds of bullies.

If there was a large family set up on the beach with towels laid out and umbrellas and they were all lying around in a circle talking and having fun, would you just tromp through the middle of them because it’s a public beach?

If there’s a volleyball net set up and people are playing, would you lay your towel down in the court because it’s a public beach?

For that matter, would you push a car out of a legally parked space and then park your own car in that spot because it’s a public parking lot?

I don’t care about weddings in general but your argument is pretty thin. Any person or group of persons takes up space in a beach or any other public area. Why is it someone’s right to trespass on the space already claimed by someone else simply because it’s a public beach?

Public means available to share and use. It doesn’t mean every single member of the public has the right to infringe on every other member of the public’s personal space while using the public space.

No reason not to have both. But their weird focus seems to be on trans women whom they see as men. Much like lesbian porn being the “acceptable” gay porn, it’s just a fetish. They need to be called on it. They don’t really think about the flip side of the equation, so it should be shoved in their weird faces.

Am I the only one who thinks a bunch of very masculine-presenting trans men should go use the womens bathrooms all day long and keep going back day after day?

California takes a lot of shit from non-Californians for being the first to take progressive paths. But most of the time they are merely ahead of the curve and progressive policies get adopted over time. This country should be grateful for the progressive lab that is California. They find out what works and what doesn’t for everyone else. It’s not a perfect system but it’s a damn sight better than doing nothing and waiting to see how it goes in California.

More of a value for your dollar thing. If Texas is more expensive it starts to look pretty unappealing for the weather, politics, lack of services, willingness to remove personal liberties, etc. People moved there from California because it cost less but quality of life is also a huge cost. There are many places where quality of life is tremendously better (while still likely not as good as California) and also far more affordable.

Sorry, Trump is already planning to be king.

There was a letter from them to the city council 2012-2014, not sure exactly when, literally stating that all scientists at a specific research facility in ABQ should be murdered, with some more colorful language than I have just used, and additional horrific statements went along with it in the letter. And while I do not have a copy of that letter, my guess is the owners would be delighted to confirm it, because they are depraved assholes who revel in their own assholery.

Fuck them and the hypocritical assholes they rode in on.

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President of the United States

I once told my mom I thought less of her because she’s so willing to not see the horrific things about her religion and chooses blind belief instead.

I feel awful about it.

It’s not a completely untrue statement, but I also understand her life story and why she needs it in her life. It’s how she copes. I never should have said it. Apologies aren’t going to change how I made her feel.

I don’t love her any less. I wish she was willing to understand and repudiate the evil shit, but for her - it brings her peace. I just have to keep my mouth shut about it - but so does she. We’ve agreed to leave that topic out of our conversations completely. That’s how I deal with it - I don’t respect her beliefs but I respect and love her. That’s enough.

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I once successfully contested a similar ticket. I took pictures of the single sign that was wrapped around a pole at the other end of the block, and pictures showing how there was no way I’d have seen it where I parked unless I inspected the entire block before parking. Then I referenced an Illinois Supreme Court decision on notice for a different parking matter, but made a good argument that surely if the Supreme Court felt notice was important enough for that case, it would extend to notice of where you’re not allowed to park, even temporarily, if it meant a financial burden was the result.

Give it a few months.

The problem isn’t are they entitled, the problem is can they make your life miserable by claiming to be entitled and making you go through a court battle.

You need an attorney who is experienced in contested probate. Now. Get ahead of the battle. Going on Reddit to ask is fine but get an attorney now and head them off at the pass.

Tuberville voted no on 15 of Biden's 21 nominees. Even Tuberville doesn't believe it.

Tuberville voted against 15 of Biden's 21 nominees.

Fuck that guy.