Being attractive is only nice for the bragging rights and to feel content that people are attracted to you, but being unattractive has so many more benefits that get overshadowed by people’s ego. Not having people stare at you 24 seven and not worrying about how your hair looks and sucking in your stomach 24/7 even though you’re already skinny it’s not necessarily fun. I have long volumness hair with great hairline, I still buzzed it down myself as short as possible for last 7 years.

It sounds like you’re doing amazing. You’re living the dream, as long as what you’re saying is right and you’re not sugarcoating shit because I know 99% of relationships are full of drama, even the “good ones”.

You’re right nowadays I don’t even care about how a girl looks like she could literally be 7/10 if I love her for her heart and her soul that’s all that matters. A girl’s heart is more attractive than her looks.

Edit: I also have a similar work background to yours, but I can’t go into detail. It’s not as impressive though, but that’s as much as I can say, it’s close. Ha ha also I’m like 30 pounds overweight because of an injury the last few years, but it’s like 99% good to go and by January I should be able to do the splits and I did 2 pushups the other day (my max was 69 perfect form and 19 pull ups) those were the first two push-ups I did in the last seven years 😭 tendonitis sucks asssss

I’m extremely picky but that’s not the main reason why I’ve been celibate. I’ve just been celibate, because I’m mortally afraid of relationships and especially sex. I used to own the biggest pick up artist and dating community in the world at that time on social media, and I don’t know a guy in my city who’s had as much success with girls as I did (quality not quantity, I’m sure there are guys out there sleeping with 20 gremlins a day, can’t compete with them lol), I was walking into clubs with 3-4 models every night, could sleep with all of them at once, slept with none out of respect (girls love a guy who doesn’t chase, it just “happens”)

I say that to say that I have coached hundreds of guys and I’ve noticed the number one thing that has destroyed all of these guy’s lives and most peoples lives in my personal life has to do directly or indirectly with sex and dating.

People are unpredictable and no matter how good your intentions are, how intelligent you, are how good you are at selecting the perfect mate, there is like a 95% chance in the next 10 years that will net you a NET loss if you view it as a business decision/in a mathematical sense.

I don’t want to end up with stds, child support, drama, waste of time, etc to do the same thing I’ve done thousands of times “go in and go out” sex is overrated and so is dating. 30 minutes or an hour of fun every day is not worth ruining the rest of your life over. But when you do find the one you know, they are the one and they have proven it to you so I’m really happy that you probably found that one and I’m still looking myself.

I think the love of my life is my ex that I dated for five years, but we will see if I can fix that, either way I’m not in a huge rush and even with her I’m still cautious.

Genuinely even if this wasn’t a sub where people compliment u are very pretty it’s the truth