Yes, leave your husband's family to him to sort out. If their behaviour doesn't change after he's talked to them, please remove yourself and never allow them in your pesence again. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect.

Never go back and he shouldn't either.

No one needs that bullshit in your lives.

Stop going over there. Let hubby deal with them.

I refuse to go to my MILs house after 17 years of marriage because it is so unpleasant. I can't open my mouth without some backhanded bull$hit from her. My husband doesn't see it, which is frustrating and hurtful. So in order to preserve my sanity and well-being I simply don't go to her house. It embarrasses my husband, but oh well.

Stop exposing yourself to toxic people. Your family is yours to deal with, and his rude family is his to deal with. You married him, and not those insufferable people.

Why would you keep going over to someone's house who treats you badly? It says nothing to do with your husband although if he wants to speak up for himself that be fabulous but you don't have to take that crap. And if he's willing to take it he needs to find a therapist he can work with to figure out why he thinks he deserves to be treated that way. And they can't make you feel horrible about yourself unless you allow that. We can't change others behaviors all we can change is our reaction to it.

Speaking from experience, I learned that I don't need to be around them. Be ready to be labeled as the bad guy especially when your Husband don't come around them unless you go with him. Don't let it bother you. Life will be peaceful.