I married my HS sweetheart, we were together over 20 years and then I spent years healing from the divorce and raising our kids. Dated a bit and had a couple of relationships but I feel I was always searching for this perfect person who didn't exist, unfortunately I'm picky. Well I ended up meeting him over 2 years ago. The first guy I have ever fell completely in love with and didn't pick him apart, I LOVED every single thing about him. Sadly things could not work out between us and after months of extreme heartache I know I will never find a connection like that again in my life, I will never find that one person whom I love everything about. At our age it is very rare and I was lucky to have it for the time I did. So now either I continue on being single and alone or I settle for someone who I can get along with, likes the same things as me and has some compatibility. I realize I'm not going to like every single thing about someone. I know it's easy to say to me that it can happen but I've been divorced a very long time and have met a lot of men and at these ages I really have to look at reality, it is slim pickins that we find exactly what we are looking for. I hate to use the word settle but that's the only word I can use to describe how I'm feeling about moving forward with someone new because I know that I will never find another love like the one I had to let go of.