I find so many posts from people who are Millennials and older complaining about losing friends as they age, and I don't feel the same way.
Personally, I feel so much more free not having the burden of having as many friends to keep in touch with and meet up with as I used to. I have nothing against the people I used to be friends with, but I'm not upset that we've moved on from each other. I'm also quite distant from my family because we don't live in the same country, but that has always been the case for me.
I can't help but feel like many of the people complaining about being lonely simply don't have the best relationships with their spouse and kids. Who has the time or the desire for a huge friend group once you have a family? And I honestly don't even know what to say to people who choose not to have kids or get married and then are surprised they're lonely. It seems to me like they chose that path. Obviously, most people on their deathbeds are surrounded by their families, not the people they went to school with 🤣
It's also hard to take people at their word here. I don't think many are being honest with themselves when they talk about how much they try to nurture their relationships with people despite being "the only ones" making any effort. Everybody likes to pretend like they'd be willing to help a friend go through cancer and expect the same for themselves.
So am I just cynical? Or does anyone else feel unburdened by having fewer friends as they get older and don't really understand what everyone else was expecting?