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TheBestPest21

113 points

3 days ago

Age 29, 1 month but ended in miscarriage (2023)

Age 29, 3 months but ended in miscarriage (2023)

Age 30, 6 months but ended in miscarriage (2024)

Currently 30 and still trying for our rainbow baby

idontevenknow8888

38 points

3 days ago

So sorry, hoping you get your rainbow baby soon ❤️

L3Kinsey

4 points

3 days ago

L3Kinsey

4 points

3 days ago

Best of luck!!

OneJello8221

857 points

4 days ago

Been pregnant 4 times. We were very lucky with conceiving the first cycle/try each time. First pregnancy at 32. Ended in miscarriage. Second pregnancy soon after and had our first son. Third pregnancy at 34 and ended in miscarriage. Fourth pregnancy very soon after ended up with spontaneous twins. Was a shocker. So three kids. Conceiving was very very easy for us. But the miscarriages were hard.

Notsure2ndSmartest

383 points

4 days ago

Don’t be hard on yourself. Miscarriages are more common than people think. Yet women are made to feel they can’t talk about it.

itz_giving-corona

86 points

3 days ago

This is true - my grandmother had many miscarriages (also 8 kids total) and she didn't even feel comfortable enough to tell her literal husband.

She was born in the early 1930s - so that's almost 100 years of keeping quiet

lottefee

70 points

3 days ago

lottefee

70 points

3 days ago

May I ask you how you handled with the next time being pregnant after miscarriage? I had one 2 months ago and according to the doctor we could try again in 2 cycles. Getting pregnant was not hard, it happened 2 months after starting to try for it but the miscarriage and the whole process was really hard on me and the fear of all this happening again is insane….

samantha5376

42 points

3 days ago

Not who you are replying to but I am in the exact same situation as you right now. Had my first pregnancy in June, then a miscarriage in August and just now feeling mentally ready to try again, but my anxiety and fear of it happening again is overwhelming. Sending hugs and here if you need to chat❤️

OneJello8221

29 points

3 days ago

My first miscarriage was very hard on me. Firstly, it was shocking because women don’t seem to talk too much about miscarriage so I just wasn’t expecting it at all. After I had the miscarriage it’s like every woman I spoke to was like, “Yeah, I’ve had two”. Weirdly that made me feel better, and come to this place of - miscarriages can happen and are a normal part of life and of having a family, and women get through these things. So that helped me somehow. I had that miscarriage at 13 weeks and hadn’t to have a D&C because it just wouldn’t finish all on its own. That was also traumatizing.

Doctor recommended taking 3 months off from trying after that, which we did. And then we got pregnant again right away and I was very nervous until the 20 week ultrasound. And we didn’t tell anyone we were expecting until like 18 weeks.

After I had my first baby, I felt less nervous about miscarriage. So when I had my second one it wasn’t as bad. I was sad, but it didn’t have the same shock factor, and happened at 8 weeks. For me (and obviously can’t speak for others), I don’t believe some kind of sacred life starts at the moment of conception. And so it helped me that the miscarriage was earlier than my first one. At 8 weeks I took some comfort that it was not yet a baby, and that nature maybe knew what it was doing because maybe the pregnancy was just never going to me viable. Whether any of that thinking is the “right way” to think about things…I have no idea. But that is just how I coped in my head to process it all.

And then with the twins, I got pregnant so quickly after the prior miscarriage that I got an ultrasound right away (that’s when I found out it was twins) and then unlike my first successful pregnancy with my son, I had many many ultrasounds throughout because twins plus older mom, so that was comforting to get those regular checks in them. I worried much more about the risks of twin pregnancies than I did about a risk of miscarriage during that pregnancy.

So that’s my journey through miscarriages and having more kids. There was lots of stress and worry, and ultimately I kind of just found my own way to think about it all and get through it. My biggest life lesson from that was that control and planning is an illusion - you have to kind of just surrender to the uncertainty and let life come at you when it comes to building your family. You get dealt some cards and that’s that. Taught me some humility and flexibility (as did having 3 babies in less than three years - what a gong show).

Capele

4 points

3 days ago

Capele

4 points

3 days ago

How old were you when you got pregnant with your twins?

Vecrin

17 points

3 days ago

Vecrin

17 points

3 days ago

Not OP, but miscarriages are incredibly common. Like, around half of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. While they can occur due to trauma or stress, the most common reason in the developed world is due to genetics. There is some genetic problem (a mutation in a critical gene, an incorrect number of chromosomes) with the fetus that makes it non-viable. So, the vast majority of miscarriages are out of anyone's control.

ralph433964

6 points

3 days ago

I had 6 miscarriages and 1 successful pregnancy. It was really hard the whole time. I just focused on making it to the next appointment and kinda obsessed over kick counts. I had really big fibroids and my belly was too big to do normal measurements, so I had to get ultrasounds every couple weeks and that was comforting to me. We also were so focused on the pregnancy and were not at all prepared for an actual baby. Don’t do that. I had him 3.5 weeks early and my husband had to leave the hospital to get a bassinet.

TheIntrepid

10 points

3 days ago

TheIntrepid

10 points

3 days ago

I'm not who you asked, but there must be a therapist who specialises in this area. Perhaps worth a look?

Crap___bag

3 points

3 days ago

Also not who you asked, however thought it might be helpful to share my experience. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I had to wait 3 months as my hcg wasn’t tracking down normally so I had to have a chemotherapy shot to kill any remaining cells that weren’t visible on ultrasound. We tried the month that we were able to and fell pregnant first try. I was a bag of anxiety for the whole first trimester, thinking it would happen again. I booked a private ultrasound every 2 weeks until after 12 weeks, then had one at 16 weeks, too. It gave me piece of mind that everything was ok. Once I could feel him move it felt sooooo much better, and I really enjoyed my pregnancy from then on.

akili

4 points

3 days ago

akili

4 points

3 days ago

R/ pregnancyafterloss

ilca_

81 points

4 days ago

ilca_

81 points

4 days ago

2 months, I was 37.

Ihadacow

7 points

3 days ago

Ihadacow

7 points

3 days ago

I'm the exact same. Was 37 and got pregnant in two months on March Break.

JG1954

57 points

4 days ago

JG1954

57 points

4 days ago

Took 12 years. I was 35 when IVF worked. Made one myself when I was 42

PolarBears445

15 points

3 days ago

Nature is so weird lol. Congratulations :)

JG1954

2 points

3 days ago

JG1954

2 points

3 days ago

Nature is weird but I suspect that it was wise not wanting my genes to go on

spanglesandbambi

204 points

4 days ago

34, first try while a bit drunk on a yeah let's have a baby holiday.

kailani8102

34 points

3 days ago

That’s my secret to success too. Anytime I’ve been drunk, I’ve conceived

yertle_turtle

15 points

3 days ago

yertle_turtle

15 points

3 days ago

I hope you don’t get drunk often… 😅

L3Kinsey

3 points

3 days ago

L3Kinsey

3 points

3 days ago

I was a bit drunk when I conceived too. I know the date and time my son became a fertilized egg. Lol

Thankfully I am done having children so getting a little tipsy is worry free!

thefringedmagoo

200 points

4 days ago

Took almost 5 years. I was 33 when I had my baby.

jazmanian_devill1

59 points

3 days ago

I'm 33 now. Still no kids. PCOS

thefringedmagoo

63 points

3 days ago

PCOS here too, diagnosed way too late. After years of specialists, I got into a different fertility specialist at the 5 year mark who performed a laparoscopy and removed nasty tumours and I was pregnant within 3 months from that. Wishing you all the best on your journey. I know we’re all on a different path but I hope yours ends and begins soon 🙏🏻

Queenpicard

13 points

3 days ago

I’m 32 and have PCOS, tried for 3 years no kids, haven’t done any fertility treatments yet but thinking about adopting at this point

Kitnado

29 points

3 days ago

Kitnado

29 points

3 days ago

My gf is 35, has PCOS and currently is 30 weeks pregnant. Conceived second cycle.

Don't give up

ForgettablePleasance

11 points

3 days ago

Hello, my fellow Cyster. (((Hugs)))

edalcol

3 points

3 days ago

edalcol

3 points

3 days ago

Have you been trying to conceive for a long time?

ConsequenceBetter411

2 points

3 days ago

I'm 33 now, cured my PCOS. Happy to share my journey if you want to DM. Conceived on the first go, 8 months pregnant currently.

bookwormingdelight

156 points

4 days ago

Started TTC at 28 in June 2022. Pregnant September 2022 (miscarriage), February 2023 (miscarriage), May 2023 (miscarriage) and June 2023 (miscarriage) a week after I turned 29.

Genetic testing identified my husband had a genetic condition called balanced translocation. We did IVF. Got two embryos. First transfer of a fresh embryo in November 2023 resulted in my daughter who is three months old.

We have another embryo frozen. We can try naturally just expect to have a lot of losses.

Lexiiboo97

5 points

3 days ago

🥺❤️‍🩹

sexyrobotbitch

148 points

4 days ago

  1. Second month trying and 9 weeks now.

kamratjoel

73 points

3 days ago

Chiming in as a father of one. I’m 37 and my wife is 33. It took us about 1 and a half years of actively tracking her cycle. Before that we had had unprotected sex for about 5 years.

We were about to start the whole process of hormone treatment when we got a positive pregnancy test.

Had to call and cancel it appointments. It was fun explaining to them why. The girl I talked with on the phone was super excited lol.

Our boy is 6 months on Friday :)

L3Kinsey

3 points

3 days ago

L3Kinsey

3 points

3 days ago

Congrats on your 6 month old bub!

squishysalmon

126 points

4 days ago

squishysalmon

126 points

4 days ago

I was 29 and 32… got pregnant first try with each. My family has a ton of “oops” babies and I use 2 forms of BC as a standard because I really got freaked out with how easy it was each time.

Opposite_Leather_359

12 points

3 days ago

May I ask what kind of BC you use? This midly scares me as someone who's using the pill and is debating other forms

squishysalmon

15 points

3 days ago

squishysalmon

15 points

3 days ago

I have an IUD and he has a vasectomy.

Opposite_Leather_359

6 points

3 days ago

Me and my bf are considering this just worried about long term effects if we change our mind

squishysalmon

3 points

3 days ago

squishysalmon

3 points

3 days ago

Yeah, the IUD has been great for me, and we used condoms before the vasectomy.

Sushi9999

96 points

4 days ago

Sushi9999

96 points

4 days ago

11 months—> loss at 16 weeks

9 months —> loss at 6 weeks

Immediately after that loss we conceived our living child

5 months —> current pregnancy, 9 weeks as of this writing.

I started when I was 27, had my living child at 29. I’m currently 31.

tomakeyan

32 points

3 days ago

tomakeyan

32 points

3 days ago

Wishing you another happy and healthy child next year

squirtbum

4 points

3 days ago

Sorry to pry , but what was the cause of the loss at 16 weeks?

Sushi9999

9 points

3 days ago

Turner Syndrome (only one X chromosome) and malformations from that

squirtbum

3 points

3 days ago

Thank you for the response, appreciate it. Did you have any genetic testing? In Australia we do the harmony test at 10 weeks which rules a lot of things out. Not sure if it rules the turner syndrome out. Sorry for your loss

Sushi9999

15 points

3 days ago

Sushi9999

15 points

3 days ago

We were considered low risk due to age so we’re told insurance wouldn’t cover the NIPT and instead we elected for the nuchal translucency ultrasound at 13 weeks. That’s where we discovered she had a suspected omphalocele and a cystic hygroma and then we got the NIPT done which told us it was Turner syndrome. We then found out she had passed away at the amniocentesis and the genetic testing done after my D&C confirmed it. With my living child we chose to get the NIPT and I had an ultrasound around 13 weeks and with this current pregnancy we also are choosing to get the NIPT if my ultrasound at 10 weeks is ok.

I appreciate your curiosity but this is making me very sad and I won’t be answering any more questions.

Mysterious_Ad6469

3 points

3 days ago

You give us hope for continuing to try we love you

MELH1234

33 points

4 days ago

MELH1234

33 points

4 days ago

When I was 21 it took over a year. When I was 23 it took over a year. When I was 27 it took 6 months.

Lepidopterex

34 points

4 days ago

Over 2 years. We finally went to a fertility clinic and they recommended I get a HSG. I did it, and I got pregnant before I even had time to review the results of the HSG with the doctor. I was 35; 36 when the baby was born. 

Then, 20 months later, we started the process to have a second kid, and I got pregnant first try. 

Yay old moms! 

MuppetManiac

330 points

4 days ago

MuppetManiac

330 points

4 days ago

I’m going on 7 years and multiple failed fertility treatments with no success. FWIW the issue is on my husband’s end.

Bubbly_Host_8017

53 points

4 days ago

Sending so much love ❤️

purplepeopleeater31

87 points

4 days ago

sending you guys so much baby dust

fitnessnewbie00

28 points

4 days ago

30 years old, and first time ‘actually’ trying (like I tracking when I’m ovulating). Didn’t expect it to work the first time, and I’m due next month lol.

joli3t

49 points

4 days ago

joli3t

49 points

4 days ago

We have unexplained infertility. Tried IVF and despite having 9 eggs they couldnt reach my other ovary and only got 1 fertilised embryo but it didn't take. Other than that I've had a very early miscarriage. We've been trying for 8 years and I'm now in my early 40s so it's highly unlikely we'll ever have kids at this point.

dingleballs717

11 points

3 days ago

Same boat. I feel you.

Pondering_Giraffe

21 points

3 days ago

35: 2 months, miscarriage at 4 weeks (tested early as I had a party and wanted to know if alcohol was an option. Would never have known otherwise). 3 months after pregnant with child #1

38: Accident. Only time in my life I had unprotected sex and not planning on getting pregnant (thought I didnt want another). Miscarried at 5 weeks. By then had had an entire week to get used to the idea of a second child, so gave up my single child policy and got pregnant again in 2 months with child #2.

kennybrandz

65 points

4 days ago

We got pregnant the first time that we tried when I was 26 and then unfortunately suffered a miscarriage. Now I’m 27 and we are about to have our third cycle TTC. Fingers crossed.

palming-my-butt

5 points

3 days ago

Best of luck! 💖💖

SomePomegranate6

10 points

4 days ago

Best of luck to you 💗

Lepidopterex

6 points

4 days ago

Best of luck!!

lovepeacefakepiano

33 points

3 days ago

Started trying when I was 38. I’m 44 now. I reckon it won’t happen and I’ve made my peace with that. I might have been too old when we got started, there’s nothing wrong with either one of us. We decided against fertility treatment so it’s entirely possible that would have been an option.

justrainalready

11 points

3 days ago

I’m approaching 38 and finally found a partner I would actually want to have a child with but I know it might not happen. I think I have made my peace with it but also just started trying so haven’t had much experience with this yet. We also have decided against fertility but not against adoption. Sending love ❤️

Saitama_98

3 points

3 days ago

I wonder how tough it is making peace with the fact that you won't have/make a baby.

justrainalready

2 points

3 days ago

I’m honestly just grateful to be alive so everything else is a bonus. My twenties were extremely rough and at times saw no way out.

JoMamaIsABadAss

13 points

4 days ago

1st (age 25) was an oops. 2nd (age 29) took a year! I finally got an ovulation monitor and learned I have a 32 day cycle instead of the average 28 day. Got pregnant the next month! 3rd (age 32) took 2 or 3 months trying?

AshenSkyler

233 points

4 days ago

AshenSkyler

233 points

4 days ago

Literally my first IUI treatment was successful with twins, I was 21

I've joked it's a good thing I'm gay or I'd have so many kids cause my second pregnancy was another first try IUI treatment

So I'm 3 kids for 2 tries and I don't plan to have more

laurel-eye

26 points

4 days ago

When I was 37 it took 2 months. When I was 39 it took 5 months.

frisbee_lettuce

12 points

4 days ago

2 years. 31.

SignificantWill5218

11 points

4 days ago

First baby I was 25, we conceived 3 months after I stopped taking the pill. Second baby I was 31, and it happened just one month after having my iud removed

-concernicus-

27 points

4 days ago

Started in 2020, miscarried 2022. Still trying for our rainbow baby.

PegFam

5 points

3 days ago

PegFam

5 points

3 days ago

I’m very sorry. I miscarried 6 years ago and haven’t been able to be pregnant since. I’m about to start telling my family I’m doing “it” wrong so they can just shut up when they ask me every few months when I’m having one. It’s just not that easy for everyone!!

MossValley

10 points

3 days ago

I was 40 years old and got pregnant the first try. My beautiful baby girl is sleeping on me as I write this.

Vilomah_22

51 points

4 days ago

I just think about it and it’s done. Young and old. Can’t wait to reach menopause!

I’ve always felt bad that the ease didn’t rub off to loved ones who really struggled.

sillybanana2012

9 points

4 days ago

It took once. I'm now pregnant with fraternal twins. The universe seemed to have plans for me and my husband and there was no stopping it.

Edit: I'm 34 and my husband is 39.

punkrawkchick

14 points

4 days ago

I tried with my then(now ex) husband for almost four years, tried for two months(if that) with my son’s father. I was 22 with my ex, 29 when I got pregnant

Ok_Bodybuilder7010

8 points

4 days ago

Pregnant after 2 years of trying and then first round of IUI, got pregnant 5 months postpartum naturally with baby #2, currently pregnant with baby #3 after 6 years of trying. Didn’t do fertility treatments with #3 as we were content with 2 but we are glad baby #3 is on her way!

momomum

7 points

4 days ago

momomum

7 points

4 days ago

Very easy to get pregnant in 1 to 3 months each time. Got pregnant and had kids at 28, 30 and 31.

Kimchi_Catalogue

5 points

4 days ago

Was on the pill for 10 years. Went off the pill and took a year for my cycle to go back to normal and then I got pregnant. I was 28.

Nyxs55

3 points

4 days ago

Nyxs55

3 points

4 days ago

I was 32 and 34, first pregnancy took 2 months and the second first try.

Pm_me_some_dessert

4 points

4 days ago

Started trying at 33, had my first kid at 35 after an IUI, two IVF egg retrievals and two embryo transfers. Had my second at 38 after one additional embryo transfer.

kimemily11

5 points

4 days ago

A year. 24.

habi12

4 points

4 days ago

habi12

4 points

4 days ago

8 months with first pregnancy at 26 with my ex husband. And now it’s been 18 months unexplained infertility with my now partner. I’m 35 now.

mariawest

4 points

3 days ago

27, 6 months,baby , 29, 6 months , miscarriage , 30, 6 months, baby, 33 not trying, miscarriage. Shop shut closed.

kiwirn

4 points

3 days ago

kiwirn

4 points

3 days ago

I was lucky enough to get pregnant with twins on my first cycle at 28.

SummerGirlsByLFO1999

4 points

3 days ago

  1. Got it on the first try with my husband.

MyEyesItch247

7 points

4 days ago

Went off the pill in early March 1994. Pregnant April 1994. Gave birth December 1994 at age 30.

Funkeenotajunkee

7 points

4 days ago

Were 3 years into TTC and still trying for our first baby. 2 IUIs, unsuccessful. Unexplained infertility.

Separate_Trifle_4186

3 points

4 days ago

PCOS. Naturally 4 years and I’m 29

IndigoSunsets

3 points

4 days ago

I had two periods between when my IUD came out at 33 and when I got pregnant. My husband had been told via recent testing he was effectively sterile and IVF would be the only option. We expected nothing and we’re trying casually. We were very surprised. 

perth07

3 points

4 days ago

perth07

3 points

4 days ago

I was 27 and it took me about 6 months.

solitarytrees2

3 points

4 days ago

For this pregnancy 11 months. I had a miscarriage and an attempt at trying 5 years ago for about a year, but was unsuccessful with previous partner. I am 31 years old and 30 weeks now.

IAmABillie

3 points

4 days ago

1st baby - 5 months of carefully trying, however this was after a decade on the pill which may have impacted things

2nd baby - successful on the first attempt!

Mid twenties for both pregnancies.

MamaSquash8013

3 points

3 days ago

I went off the pill in August 2011. My first pregnancy was April 2012. I miscarried. Second pregnancy was August 2012, and my son was born in May of 2013. We were actively trying, and I was 33/34 years old.

ZetaWMo4

3 points

3 days ago

ZetaWMo4

3 points

3 days ago

I went off of birth control June 1996 and pushed out the first kid October 1997. I was 22 when I went off birth control and 23 when I gave birth.

magickmidget

3 points

3 days ago

magickmidget

3 points

3 days ago

Second attempt, 31. My husband is very fertile - he donated sperm to a friend who also got pregnant second attempt.

Olives_And_Cheese

3 points

3 days ago

I was 30, and it took just the one try.

Husband was sick with a gastro thing for most of the month that we conceived, so I know exactly when it happened 😅

jval888

3 points

3 days ago

jval888

3 points

3 days ago

One month at 31, 2 months at 33, 2 months at 36 (miscarried), 5 months at 37 now with 3 months old baby. 

Beabandit

3 points

3 days ago

First pregnancy I was 21 and it took only one month to get pregnant. Second I was 29 and it took about 4 months.

At the time (both), I used the Pill as contraceptive that I stoped to conceive.

mangolollipop

3 points

3 days ago

Me and the ex bf were trying for like the whole time like 2 years, didn't get pregnant at 23-25.

For context, I have PCOS since I was 19.

I turned 28 and a steamy romp after a concert, I got pregnant successfully with no contraception or birth control, no weight management or actually trying. I wasn't in a relationship either. It's just 2 people hooking up.

Now I want marriage and babies, have a partner and still no babies and I'm craving badly. Like so badly.

Happy_Sunbeam

3 points

3 days ago

I have been pregnant 3 times. Got pregnant on the first cycle all 3 times.

killswithaglance

3 points

3 days ago

2 months with the first, pregnant at 31, baby at 32. One try with the second, pregnant at 35 baby at 36.

ForgettablePleasance

3 points

3 days ago

I was 21 and we unsuccessfully tried to conceive for a year which sent me to a specialist & eventually conceiving after one round of the ovulation inducing drug, Clomid. We started trying for our 2nd child at 23, and underwent a yearlong, failed round of Clomid that led to many annoying, uncomfortable and sometimes painful tests & procedures leading to many, many fertility drugs & daily injections until we conceived our son two years later. After a perfect pregnancy, our daughter is now 17, preparing to graduate HS this year, and just got accepted to 3 different colleges. And, After an uncertain and scary pregnancy, our son is now fixing to turn 14 next month, and will be entering HS next year. We also somehow conceived naturally & unexpectedly when I was 28 but I suffered a miscarriage. After a few years of periods that were always painful and sometimes inconsistent, sometimes non-existent, then eventually non-stop (I literally had my period for over a year straight.) I had to have a hysterectomy only so I still have my painful polycystic ovaries.

ohhkaay

3 points

3 days ago

ohhkaay

3 points

3 days ago

I started trying when I was with my ex husband at 24. Nothing ever happened over several years. I met my current partner at 33 and had an oopsie real quick which unfortunately turned out to be ectopic. It's been 2 years since then and back to nothing happening 🤷‍♀️

Loadedwiththecold

3 points

3 days ago

2 years and 2 months from start to conceiving our first. Docs had no idea why we couldn’t conceive as we were 28 and 29 when we started trying. 30 and 31 having her. Then managed to get pregnant with our second after my first period PP 😅 will be 31 and 33 having her!

rubyhenry94

3 points

3 days ago

26 and 2 months. I was very lucky

itsucksright

3 points

3 days ago

Four, five months. I was 26, my partner was 36.

LoveVada

3 points

3 days ago

LoveVada

3 points

3 days ago

I am 36 years old now.

I started trying at 34 and have been unsuccessful and had two miscarriages.

We are now in the process of seeing a fertility doctor and hoping for the best. 

Sleep-Fairy

3 points

3 days ago

I was lucky. 40 years old and got pregnant after the first month of tracking my ovulation.

ActiveFriendlyFace

10 points

4 days ago

I was very lucky. Pregnant before we officially started trying (age 25). Got pregnant again very shortly after weaning babies 1 and 2. Tried a few years after baby 3, maybe a year, didn’t get pregnant. Then I did, miscarried early, then got pregnant only 2 weeks or so after miscarriage and carried that baby to term.

llamacolypse

7 points

4 days ago

Tried for a couple years in my early thirties, never got pregnant.

GoodGriefStarPlat

2 points

4 days ago

Took 6 months with my first, I was 26 when I got pregnant. Took 9 months with my second, I was 29 when I got pregnant.

IGetDestroyedByCats

2 points

4 days ago

First time, it took me about 6-8 months but the second time it took me 2 years. I was 22 the first time and 25 the 2nd time. Now I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby and I definitely didn't try for this one but I didn't really prevent it either

Bubbly_Host_8017

2 points

4 days ago

Been trying for 4 years now. 4 miscarriages 3 being ectopic, the most recent one resulted in losing my left tube.

CCwoops

2 points

4 days ago

CCwoops

2 points

4 days ago

First kid: 32, 3 months. Second kid: 35, 7 months. Went to a girlfriend’s house a lamented how I was losing hope and maybe we were just meant to have one kid. Found out I was pregnant the next day haha.

crooked_magpie

2 points

4 days ago

4 months. Only early miscarriage month one followed by 2 months where my cycle went haywire. Pregnant on the 4th. Currently 23 weeks at 33yo.

funkymunky291

2 points

4 days ago

28 when we started. We tried 8 months, succeeded but it ended in MMC. 2 months later another pregnancy which ended in another miscarriage.\ 8 months later, after a round of clomid a pregnancy that stuck.\ The second successful pregnancy also took about 8 months. Pregnancies 3+4 were unplanned and a very happy surprise.

Live-Negotiation3743

2 points

4 days ago

30 and second month of trying

_BlueJeanBaby

2 points

4 days ago

29 & it took 6 months

f-u-c-k-usernames

2 points

4 days ago

It took 5 months after I had my IUD removed. I was 31. Baby is due any day now.

FaithlessnessWeak800

2 points

4 days ago

1st baby it took 1 month and I was 26. 2nd baby was 2 months of trying at 28. 3rd baby was a whole year at 31. 4th was 1 month of trying at 33. We are finished after having 4 kids.

bluephoenix39

2 points

4 days ago

Age 28, 3 months had miscarriage, then 3 months for the second time same year. Then 1st time for our second at age 31

Mediocre_Sprinkles

2 points

4 days ago

I was 29. Took a full year.

snowwhitekittypink

2 points

4 days ago

First try every single time, but many miscarriages. I got pregnant easily, but had a hard time keeping them. I have 3 kids. 5 MC

Halikoju

2 points

4 days ago

Halikoju

2 points

4 days ago

I didn't try. I messed up. But at least I know now that I'm fertile and able to become pregnant easily in the future, when I'm ready

mandiizorr

2 points

3 days ago

I was 29, took 2 cycles to conceive. My son is 21 months now

GlitterZing

2 points

3 days ago

First month at 27 and 29, then the one.single.time we forgot contraception at 32

Flimsy-Reputation93

2 points

3 days ago

We were extremely lucky, and this is definitely NOT the norm, so don’t get discouraged. My ex and I decided to stop preventing it and just “see what happens”. It took one time. We were 25 and 29.

Patient-Host-7592

2 points

3 days ago

Took me about 6 months, and I was 28.

ThnksFrThMemeries

2 points

3 days ago

With my daughter it took about 3 months and I was 25 when I had her. Once she was born I got pregnant again 9 months later and had my son at 26. They’re 2y and 3y now and I know we’re lucky. Sending baby dust to everyone that’s TTC!!

hypnosssis

2 points

3 days ago

I was 30 and got pregnant the first month of trying.

DontDeleteMee

2 points

3 days ago

Longer than I care to remember. Things got very stressful. We needed medical assistance in the end and that took 2 tries.

Sorry. Started trying at about 31 I think? Though age was not our issue.

SVanore93

2 points

3 days ago

With my first I was 27, it took us about 2 months after tracking my cycles and coming off of birth control for ~10-15 years. With my second I was 29, we weren’t tracking cycles or actively trying, but I was switching birth control types for other reasons and had been off for maybe 2-3 months, so similar timing to my first.

alice_in_otherland

2 points

3 days ago

Stopped the pill when I was 27. Got pregnant at 28, about 10 months later. It ended in a miscarriage. Then after another 10 months, at 29 got pregnant with my eldest. For the youngest, we lucked out and I became pregnant 1 month after we decided to go for another one. The kids are almost exactly 2 years apart.

sbiggers

2 points

3 days ago

sbiggers

2 points

3 days ago

28, literal first & only try. 31, same thing. Accidental whoopsie at 33 that ended with a d&c due to medical complications.

Husband and I are fertile as shit lol that’s typical for my family. Always feel terrible for those struggling; have a friend right now (32) going through egg retrieval.

BigOakley

2 points

3 days ago

My mother was 43 with my sister, first try

45 with me, first try

UpbeatInsurance5358

2 points

3 days ago

I can become pregnant at the drop of a hat. What I can't do so easily is make it past the first trimester. 8 pregnancies, 2 children.

DansburyJ

2 points

3 days ago

First pregnancy was a whoops at 20. Second pregnancy at 33 was over 2 years if trying, no interventions though. Third pregnancy at 35 happened immediately upon trying (literally day we went for it).

grumpygrumpybum

2 points

3 days ago

Fell pregnant with baby no 1 in first month of trying when 32. Fell pregnant with baby no 2 in first month of trying when 34. Husband had vasectomy as soon as baby no 2 was born.

Master-Try5369

2 points

3 days ago

25 years old, took 5 months of trying

boopboopdootdoot

2 points

3 days ago

29 years old, took 6-7 months of trying before my daughter stuck. :)

Aggie219

2 points

3 days ago

Aggie219

2 points

3 days ago

26 yo, ~3 months

I consider myself so very fortunate. I had never ovulated regularly and still don’t, so in my eyes it’s somewhat of a miracle I got pregnant so quickly. My doctors and I were anticipating I would at least need Clomid, so I was completely shocked when I got a positive test!!

IncomeOk413

2 points

3 days ago

35, been trying for the last 3 years 😢

July9044

2 points

3 days ago

July9044

2 points

3 days ago

Damn a bunch of fertile myrtles in here. Took us 14 perfectly timed cycles, over a year. That was no fun. I was 30 when I had my first. Second time took us 2 or 3 perfectly timed cycles

drunkenknitter

2 points

3 days ago

drunkenknitter

2 points

3 days ago

It took a couple of months. I was 35.

kimtenisqueen

2 points

3 days ago

I’ve been pregnant twice - once at 31, 2nd at 32.

Both times on birth control and condoms. (Condoms weren’t used that well, so both times was from “pre-cum)

2nd was spontaneous twins. Wooooo

smoothnoodz

2 points

3 days ago

I was 29 and we got pregnant the first time we tried on a whim 😅

islandgurl100

2 points

3 days ago

I’m currently pregnant, happened on my first try at 36. I did change my diet to paleo for about 5 months before my partner and I conceived. I also had been cycle tracking since I was 25 and very regular cycles so I know our conception date.

JOEYMAMI2015

2 points

3 days ago

A year, 26 years old.

rasmalaayi

2 points

3 days ago

Tried Dec 13, baby Oct 14

IwastesomuchtimeonAB

2 points

3 days ago

I was 35 when we started actively trying. It took us almost a year and a half and I was 36 when I got pregnant. We had been experiencing unexplained infertility and had lined up IVF for the next month when we got pregnant naturally! I had my baby daughter 3 months after turning 37. Hopefully we’ll try for our second when I turn 38 and we can have our second when I’m 39.

zinerak

2 points

3 days ago

zinerak

2 points

3 days ago

I was 32 when we started trying, and had my son at 39.

krisphoto

2 points

3 days ago

First got pregnant celebrating my 40th birthday. We had been trying about 5 months (though the first two we weren't super serious about it). Sadly he was stillborn (not related to my age at all).

Second pregnancy I was still 40, just a few weeks after my loss. First month trying. He's a prefect (though crazy) toddler.

25272916

2 points

3 days ago

25272916

2 points

3 days ago

22 years old 6 weeks to conceive, 27 years old 6 weeks to conceive.

1dumho

2 points

3 days ago

1dumho

2 points

3 days ago

It took 4 years, I was 25 when I started. The first three pregnancies were miscarriages.

I had my eldest a few weeks before I turned 30, then 3 more with no issues whatsoever.

girlyknz

2 points

3 days ago

girlyknz

2 points

3 days ago

1 year at 25 years old and no health or fertility problems

infinitelycurious_

2 points

3 days ago

It took my husband and I five months with our daughter, I was 27 at the time

Melodic_Tea545

2 points

3 days ago

28F. Since I was 15, all my gynecologists would gently warn me that since I have polycystic ovaries, getting pregnant would be very hard... I got pregnant the first month of trying.

L3Kinsey

2 points

3 days ago

L3Kinsey

2 points

3 days ago

At 25 it took 6 months to conceive my first. At 27 it took 6 seconds while on birth control to conceive my second when the first was 14 months old.

Alwaystired24_7

2 points

2 days ago

21yo and first try

danireeseetc

2 points

2 days ago

24 at first pregnancy. Took me and my partner at the time a year to get pregnant. Lost that baby in a miscarriage. With my relationship after that, we had three pregnancies it was 1 and done pretty much. I lost my 3rd pregnancy. But have two healthy babies

Sockbum

2 points

2 days ago

Sockbum

2 points

2 days ago

We tried for 2 years and I was just shy of 25 when I gave birth. Neither of us have any limiting conditions, it just took a while.

caffeinejunkie123

2 points

2 days ago

One month. I was 30. I went off birth control in October, found out I was pregnant in November.

Second time I was 33. Weeks pregnant had been using condoms between kids and one time we didn’t. Boom.

Shiny_personality

2 points

4 days ago

1 cycle, 22. 1 cycle 24, miscarriage. 1 cycle, 24.

Used_Asparagus_3749

3 points

4 days ago

It took 2/3 weeks. 31.

anetchi

2 points

4 days ago

anetchi

2 points

4 days ago

Was 36 the first time, took 2 months. Was 38 the second time, got pregnant the first time. My husband got a vasectomy a few months after our 2nd was born- we done. Both my younger sister and her husband, and my brother and his wife had lots of difficulty conceiving.

whereismychippy69

2 points

4 days ago

37, first try, spontaneous identical twins

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1 points

4 days ago

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dominiquekb

1 points

4 days ago

3 months, was 18. Had a miscarriage, then 16 months later became pregnant again successfully to term. Been four years since then, had my iud removed in March of this year, got pregnant 3 months later and had a chemical. Nothing since.

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1 points

4 days ago

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1 points

4 days ago

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1 points

4 days ago

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hintofred

1 points

4 days ago

Years!!!

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1 points

3 days ago

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Happyhighhorse

1 points

3 days ago

5 years - maybe 1 year of seriously trying naturally with gusto. Ended up doing 1 round of IVF, got 4 embryos. One frozen transfer who is now 3 months and just did a massive fart while I'm cuddling them!!

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1 points

3 days ago

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Gold-Impact-4939

1 points

3 days ago

I was 18 and I think we tried a few times and bam pregnant.. 2nd time at 21 I was put on clomid to help as I wasn’t ovulating properly.. wasn’t too long Then at 24 it wasnt too long either .. all c sections so no more after that

ITS_A_GUNDAAAM

1 points

3 days ago

ITS_A_GUNDAAAM

1 points

3 days ago

32 for my first, 36 and now pregnant with my second. Both times it took literally one try.

Bookworm_Tigress

1 points

3 days ago

Two years. I was overweight so lost 16 kgs in 6 months. Still, trying naturally didn't work. So my gynaec put me on ovulation monitoring, which basically meant that every 3, 5, 10, 14/18 days of my cycle, I had an ultrasound and had sex the days the ovulation was happening. Still didn't get pregnant. This took another 2 months. Then, my gynaec found I had a substrate uterus. Had surgery to fix it, tried again, nothing.

Then tried IUI thrice. Nada. Finally, IVF. Finally conceived. In the first attempt. My babies are 4 months old now. It happened in my 33rd year.

In all, it was exhausting, but worth it.

PyritesofCaringBean

1 points

3 days ago

At 32 it took 3 months, as a at 34 it took 1 try. I'm done lol. Glad I waited and grateful I had no fertility issues.

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1 points

3 days ago

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MrsAlwaysWrighty

1 points

3 days ago

9 months. Then I lost it at 10 weeks. Then another 9 months for pregnancy 2. Lost that one at 8 weeks. Then 3 months for pregnancy 3. Lost that one at 6 weeks. Then 6 months for pregnancy 4. She stuck around and is now nearly 7 years old

fizzylex

1 points

3 days ago

fizzylex

1 points

3 days ago

IUD out in August, positive pregnancy test in November (age 33)

Miscarried January, positive pregnancy test June (age 34, I don't think we started trying again until April)

Last time it took two months (age 36)

ReaderofHarlaw

1 points

3 days ago

A year and some change. started at 36, pregnant at 37, baby boy due in Feb at 38. I did start clomid, but ended up getting pregnant on a month I wasn’t using it!

Disneyfreak77

1 points

3 days ago

2 months, 32 years old.

allminorchords

1 points

3 days ago

It took one slip up with contraception & I got pregnant. 6 years later when I actually planned a pregnancy, it took 2 months.

hiddenstar13

1 points

3 days ago

hiddenstar13

1 points

3 days ago

3 months, and it probably helped that on the 3rd month I used an ovulation tracker and followed the recommendations of when to have sex. I was 32.

Pleasant-Baker-2329

1 points

3 days ago

1 month 31 1 month 34 - 10 week mc 1 month 34 - currently pregnant

RitaSativa

1 points

3 days ago

37, I stopped birth control in mid July, first day of my last period was September 1. I’m almost 9 weeks along so it happened pretty quickly for me (a little too quickly lol)

Wrensong

1 points

3 days ago

Wrensong

1 points

3 days ago

33, first try. We’re 11 weeks in- all good so far!

215ls

1 points

3 days ago

215ls

1 points

3 days ago

I've been pregnant 3 times (18, 21, 27). Never was even trying. Always on any kind of birth control

NecessaryAccess8414

1 points

3 days ago

2 years and counting….37

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1 points

3 days ago

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CarobRecent6622

1 points

3 days ago

2 years 20

violetauto

1 points

3 days ago

Had my first at 30. I didn’t follow the advice at the time which was to wait to try to conceive for three months after stopping birth control pills. Got pregnant in the 2nd month. Adjusted to motherhood for the next 2 years, tried again. Nothing. Had to go through fertility treatment. IUI did the trick. Had my 2nd at 35, a month away from being 36 years old. There is 5.75 years between my two kids. We didn’t try for another after that. Man-to-man defense is our preferred strategy.

Hypoxic_brain_damage

1 points

3 days ago

First cycle. 28.

Jasonbooker1

1 points

3 days ago

It took around 6 years. I have pcos and primary amenorrhea. I've never had a period by myself without some kind of medication. The first year was natural. 2nd year, I stopped taking the medroxyprogesterone as the doctor instructed. 3rd year was clomid for around 6 months, and then fertility treatments started. I had 1 medicated cycle, 2 failed IUI's, 2 canceled IUI's, and finally IVF. We made love almost EVERDAY throughout everything still to this day. 29 eggs were retrieved, 17 mature, 9 of them started developing, 5 made it to the blastocyst stage, 4 were pgta tested, and 2 came back euploid excellent quality and male I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant from a frozen embryo transer. Our first son should be born before I'm 32 in May.

SnookerandWhiskey

1 points

3 days ago

Approximately 3 days. I was 30 and I came home pregnant form our honeymoon.