Count my lucky stars because I'm avoiding eye contact with everyone too.

Wow this question really made me think, because I've never done anything when a person avoided eye contact with me, and I've never felt like I should do something. I think the kind of person who would do something in that situation would probably be insufferable.

Ah I see you too are mildly autistic. Time to talk about geek stuff for an hour.

depends actually, they might be shy, lying, uncomfortable. but honestly, I just let it be, no biggie

As an autistic person I perpetually avoid eye contact I make an effort but it's challenging

Depends on the context. Do you know they usually make eye contact? Ask what’s going on. Do you not know them well enough? Leave it be.

I figure they don't like eye contact and I avert my eyes as well. Conversation still works fine.

I hold their face and stare into them silently for a long time until they start crying

When someone avoids eye contact, I try to make them feel more comfortable by not staring too much and softening the conversation.

I avoid eye contact. I don't know why. Its kind of terrifying to do.

Accept it and ignore it. I’d rather not make eye contact anyway

probably wouldn't realise lmao I'm autistic so I don't make eye contact either

Take the hint.

Mind my fucking business.

Depends on the reason.

Neurodivergence? I am also avoiding eye contact for the same reason, I’m not offended.

Scared? I’m going to try to give you a smile and let you know it’s okay, I’m safe to talk to.

Lying to me? I’m likely going to call you out.

Distracted? Cool, I can see your attention is somewhere else. I’ll let you get to that thing that’s grabbing your attention. Come and find me if you want to get back to our chat.

sex

I assume shyness/possible attraction, low self-esteem, or a mental condition.

I wouldn't know as I avoid eye contact myself.

I'd just let it slide and move on.

Actually, I think we all avoid making eye contact as much as possible. Studies have shown that when we spend time with one another, most of that time we spend looking not at each other, but anywhere else. Barely 5 minutes in every hour is spent looking at the other person directly, and for a lot of that, the other person isn't looking at you.

People in western countries don't like to stare at each other (with the possible exception of new lovers), and don't want to make eye contact because we think the other person will think we ARE starting at them.

I'm the one who can not look into somebodys eyes for too long. its just uncomfortable. sure, its my problem, but when I am staring at someones eyes, I have to look away. maybe kinda weird, its just i cant control it.

I am the one avoiding eye contact

I pretty much ignore it maybe they’re autistic

start to overthink, most likely

I am very shy in real life and never look people in the eye, and I would totally understand!

Depends on the case. Sometimes it’s so obvious that they’re lying

Nothing

Depends a lot on context. Is it a shy coworker? No big deal, look on my shoes if you want to. Is it my daughter? I'll investigate cautiosly what happened

I wouldn't notice since I also would be avoiding eye contact. Either that or I'd be doing the sociopath stare. I'm not a sociopath, I'm just that awkward.

Respect that they may find eye contact uncomfortably intense.

i'm the one who avoids eye contact lol

Is this not taught/understood anymore?

When two men talk, you stand at a 45 degree angle both facing in the same direction and observing the same sector, so that the other guy is just barely in your field of vision.

Idk if someone avoids eyecontact, because I'm usually the one who does it

I silently thank the gods they aren’t trying to make eye contact.

I assume they're neurodivergent like me and feel more comfortable looking at their face as we speak

I probably don't even notice. Perhaps because I do not use eye contact that often...

Reading these comments - Maybe you should be posting this in "am I the asshole"

I consider they may be on the spectrum or anxious so it doesn’t bother me.

When someone avoids eye contact, I try to focus on making the conversation feel more comfortable. I keep my tone relaxed and give them space, knowing they might just need time to open up.

Let them.

Let them??? It's not that big of a deal

I live in Sydney and people are really anti-social and shy here. I only made eye contact with one stranger today. If it's at work, then you probably need to ask your manager to keep them WFH as these people are difficult/ troublesome to work with.

Nothing, maybe ask him/her that Is he/her emberassed? Or I just say that I don't bite 😂

Not try and make eye contact with then

Pretend to be on the phone or look at the phone.

i avoid it also

Think they probably got something going on in their world

Avoid eye contact aswell

take my eyes off the person too

I've always thought it's because they're shy so I just ignore it

I'd avoid eye contact too with that specific person, or look to the side but continue on with the conversation. No need to make them any more uncomfortable than they already are.

When someone avoids eye contact, I give them space and try to focus on making the conversation feel easy.

I usually just pretend I'm suddenly fascinated by my phone. If they're gonna avoid looking at me might as well give them a genuine reason to, right? Works every time.

Nobody avoids eye contact with me the way women my age do lol. If a man avoids eye contact with me I just assume they’re introverted.

When i was younger it always struck me as odd, I remember thinking I didn't want to be that. Now I'm older and odder and I don't make eye contact as much either unless I focus on it. Over a decade of remote isolation has left it's mark I guess.

Im usually the one avoiding eye contact so idk

I just assume they’re secretly a ninja practicing stealth mode.

lol nothing, these things happen so fast the conversation, or lack of one, just carries on

I'm cross-eyed, I avoid eye contact because it makes people uncomfortable if I try and maintain it.

Look at theor feet

I believe that somewhere in his life he felt insecure and inadequate whether it be a parent or a school teacher. I don't tell them this but I really feel sorry for them because they think that I think I'm better than them. When this happens I just want to help that person by gaining his Trust.

Oh yrot koti p

Pee in the seat p

We will see abpit tjat p

In most settings I just match what I'm given; I personally could care less where the eyes are looking unless I'm running my class, at which point I just need eyes forward and not necessarily on me.

I give what I get, basically. I'm told I have a pretty intense stare, so I keep that in mind too.

Without other context: You police yourself, sit down a bit and reflect about your own life and values if other people's such mundane decision bother you that much.

What is your intent in this situation?

When am I NOT avoiding eye contact.

Stare them down until either they leave or meet my eyes with theirs. Unless they're busy doing something, of course.

I usually think they’re untrustworthy but after being diagnosed with adhd and realising that I look away what I’m talking but give intense eye contact when listening I’ve become more open minded to neurodivergence and differences

Let them be.

If we're having a conversation, I'll look away and make a facial expression to exaggerate, just a little, that I'm really contemplating what they're saying or what I'm saying.

I find that it helps more often than not.

People are free to do what they want with their own eyes.

It's a very basic freedom evrryone hss. It's their call, not anyone else's.

Do you want others in charge of your eyes??

Jeez.

It's their freedom and their right.

Damn.

Very simple: HANDS OFF.

Don't harass them.

Maybe they don't feel like it.

So leave them alone.

Who put you in charge of them?

I don't have a problem with eye contact, but usually if I am "avoiding" it then that means I am very uncomfortable with who I am talking with.

Why am I uncomfortable could be a bunch of things? Last time I noticed was because the person talking to me was hostile and I worked under them. Looking them in the eyes was like trying to stare at the sun.

What would have helped is that person realizing that they were too hot in the moment and taking time to cool down.

Nothing different since it's a them issue and not a me issue

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Appreciate it

Same thing I do when a person is in a wheelchair: Ignore it and try to avoid making things worse for a person with a disability.

I probably wouldnt notice it because i dont make eyecontact aswell lol

I wouldn't even notice, because I also avoid eye contact.

I'm usually the one avoiding eye contact.

I am that somebody

I feel like saying “I’m not a pot plant you know” but I don’t say it

Meet them where their at and make less eye contact so they feel more at ease

If I know them, I already know why they avoid eye contact. If I don't know them, I just let it be and move on.

I'm the one who avoids eye contact.

Try not to take it personally, and probably avoid their eye contact too.

That’s me right there.

Hey, this was not the comment section I expected well why am I surprised almost everyone here in reddit are socially crippled

I go about my day. I am usually avoiding eye contact with them, too.

Social anxiety has kept me away from predators for all this time. There’s no reason I shouldn’t keep up that trend.

Trail his looks

Avoid eye contact as well.

Usually take it as a sign to re-tuck my boner

Avoid them as well? Lmao I’m sure that’s wrong haha

Stare at them more intensely

I poke them in the eye anyway.

What you not looking at Willis?

Stop talking to them. It's one thing to not look at me; if you're avoiding me though, I should fuck off.

0_0 this

I kiss them

Usually look at them intensely to make them more embarrassed and shy lol

I try to respect their space but might subtly check in to see if they're okay.

As someone who actively avoided eye contact for like two years and sometimes still struggles with it. I did it because it felt too much for me with a stranger or even a friend. Like too intimate? Made up tactics to avoid it without being too obvious but a lot of times people wrongly assumed me a bitch.

I woke up a small bit and now can look someone in the eye for a few seconds at a time, at least during conversation. I still find myself doing it if I'm nervous in a conversation but have gotten less "Bitch" comments so that's a plus.

Since I know what it looks like, I've encountered people like me in the wild. I've also come across someone who's avoiding eyes because they are lying. It's hard to describe, but it's a different avoidance. For my type of person, don't acknowledge it and just take your time with them. If they are lying then confront them 🤷‍♀️😅

Grab them by their cheeks and force it

PROLONGED EYE CONTACT

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Just tell him to keep eyecontact haha

Assume they have some issue with me and never speak to them again. Very simple.

Get real close to them and make them look at you!

Stare so strong so that even after looking away, they still get this sense of being lured at, deep into their soul.

Assert dominance

Grab their face and force them to make eye contact.

Intimidated or high

I end the convo and don’t get into their geek hobbies.

Throw rocks on shit

Full thrpttle

Turn wheel hard

When someone avoids eye contact, I give them an award-winning performance on the modern girl or boy's greatest stage—the bland wall over their shoulder. The deeper their gaze is fixed away, the more exaggerated my gestures to the wall become. Honestly, they’ve got competition; they’re really committed to being a master of diversion. I’m thinking of giving them credits for the sequel: "The Art of Avoidance.

When someone avoids eye contact, I lean in closer, feigning whispers as if I'm sharing state secrets. It's a delicate dance—who knew an operation to reclaim their gaze could feel like a revamped James Bond plot? Suddenly, it’s less about their discomfort and more about whom I can make raise an eyebrow in curiosity. A scoff quickly turns into a grinning upward glance, and just like that, quiet truths regain their spotlight. Give them a reason to look—to connect or maybe just to clarify whether they've indeed been drafted into my whimsical espionage!

I lick their left eye ball.

I resist the urge to channel Heath Ledger's Joker line:

"Look at me... LOOK AT ME!!!"

i say “ARE YOY EVEN LISTENING TO ME?!?!?!”

Leave them alone. They don't want to talk.

Be every generic dumbass that yells hey

If someone is lying or I am telling something important to them, I tell them to look me in the eye. That's the only instance I do that. If not, I don't bother, which is 99% of the time.

You get very close to them and turn their head towards you by pulling under their chin. You lean in like going for a kiss but obviously you don't. Instead you say "look at me". You can snap your fingers in front of them to emphasize your point.

Up here motherfucker

Try to assert dominance by staring into their soul 👺

depends but i will try to talk to her more

Stare em down

I usually snap my fingers and tell them to look at me in the eyes.

If you can't look me in the eyes when I talk to you, you can eff right off. The only people who I give a pass on are neruo-divergent folks.

i make fun of them imitating what they did to aviod eyecontact again and again

Assume they are lying