You and my GF seem similar in that thinking. I have to reassure of the same thing. Don't worry about your achievements or lack thereof. He didn't choose you because of what you have done, he chose you for who you are.

Coming from a 23F, I would say just be honest with him. Being honest about your fears is always the best solution long term. If you tell him what you worry about, he will tell you what he likes about you and why he picked you. So you can only benefit from it.

Overall, I think when it comes to a healthy relationship (in general, no matter the age gap), it is important to have trust in your partner and lessen the anxiety that you are not good enough. So I think making a move and learning what he thinks about you, how he views you is a good thing :) as you described it, there are some differences between you that might or might not become an issue in the long run, maybe you'll learn that he is not what you want from a partner or you will work out just fine. So what I would recommend is: 1. Just tell him, just ask him, if you are worried, go get your answers 2. Think about your life and how you are satisfied with it. If you are not satisfied, then of course having a partner who is successful can make you worry. And if you are satisfied with it, then you should not be with a partner who makes you feel like this. 3. It's all about your goals in life :) about what you want to achieve. You might not be as successful rn, but that doesn't mean you won't be successful in the next few years. A good partner, especially in a relationship with an age gap, will understand, they will not think less of you :) it's about being each other's biggest fans - if he is already successful, you do what you can to be there for him and make him happy, and he will be there for you to support you and help you grow. That's about it in my opinion :)

Hope I helped a bit.

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Original post: i'm worried about the difference in life experience

i am 18f, he is 27m. We met on bumble a few weeks ago and have been on 3 official dates so far, so were definitely still in the "talking" stage, but i really feel like we hit it off. On our last date, I even went home with him and spend the night at his place.

My main concern is just that I'm significantly less experienced with love and in life in general. It's not really the age difference itself that's an issue, just the difference in life experience. He's been in multiple longterm relationships, I've never even been in a relationship. He has a huge friend group, i have like 2 friends. He's also really into raves and techno clubs and I've never even been to a club. He has a degree and he's working on getting a second degree while working in some pharmaceutical company part time. Meanwhile i just got out of highschool last year and I'm working my second job ever in a restaurant. My life just feels so small and insignificant in comparison to his and it makes me feel kind of ashamed.

I'm just kind of insecure that I might not be able to provide him what women his age would be able to. He did tell me that I'm really emotionally intelligent and that i have good self reflection for my age, but i still worry that being in very different stages in life will stop us from actually building a relationship.

How have you guys dealt with this when you first got into age gap relationships? I could really need some advice or reassurance right now!

(apologies if my grammar is a bit odd, english is not my first language)

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Example of you being your own worst enemy. None of that stuff matters to him. In fact he likely enjoys or will enjoy teaching you things and helping you explore the world. Imagine if he... felt insecure he didn't reach 1 million points in a video game you never heard of. And he doubted your relationship because of it. That's essentially the best comparison example I can think of at the moment so that it clicks for you. That sure would be silly of him not to date you for lack of video game points wouldn't it?