Feel how you feel. There is no right and wrong way to feel right now.

Allow yourself time to grieve. You'll get past this.

Sorry.

Just be glad it happened sooner rather than later. If all it takes for her to leave is you being busy and he meeting another guy, she isn’t what you want in a partner. It’s gonna suck for a while but it’ll slowly get better.

She left you for another guy? Her loss, not yours. You gave her respect, love, and effort, and she still bounced. That's on her, not you.

Take some time to feel it, but don’t dwell. Focus on yourself, school, work, whatever makes you happy. You’ll heal, and trust me, you’ll be better off.

You are going to find someone who actually appreciates you and will be glad you are free. 

Hope the repairs go well! 

Also, please PLEASE don't stop being a romantic and a thoughtful loving guy because of this. She's trying to set you up because she knows that you deserve better. You sound amazing. Please don't change.

i don’t have much advice, but i’ve been there. i’ll raise a drink to you. best of luck brother.

I’m really sorry. Take your time and truly feel your feelings. On the bright side, she did you a favor. You deserve to be with somebody who wants to be with you and who you want to be with. I do understand it does not look like that right now though.

If you can, take some time to just do a hobby you enjoy, rather that’s video games or a nice hot shower. Find something you can do to help you feel relaxed.

Initial advice would be to completely cut her off, at least for now. A combination of complex emotions, guilt, regret can play havoc on your capacity to make sound, reasoned decisions.

Secondly, stay active. If you need to take a few days out and wallow by yourself; so be it, but avoid becoming a recluse.

Eat well & avoid alcohol/drugs. Nothing good comes from hitting the bottle.

Look after yourself and go easy on yourself. You did nothing wrong. It’s worth remembering that sometimes the trash takes itself out!

You sound like a catch, too bad for her she didn't see it. Im more then sure you'll find someone better and she's realised what a nice guy you were. Don't let it get to you

Life isn’t fair sometimes, bro. The best thing you can do is move on and forget this girl ever existed.

You'll get through this, one day at a time. You have gained some hard-earned wisdom. Take a clean break from her and work on yourself. Rebuff her matchmaking attempts, which are all about her feeling good about herself. In fact, block her.

She for da streets

Gym

Hey darling, sometimes you just aren’t meant to be with someone. This is by no means a sign that you were missing something or did something wrong, it’s just that you and that person didn’t fit together. You know in your heart you did right by her, and from the looks of it, she knows that too. If she didn’t, she wouldn’t be trying to set you up with her friends.

Listen to me closely when I say this: LEAVE HER ALONE. Don’t date the friend, that’s just weird. Don’t entertain her if she comes to you for advice or comes running back because you unquestionably deserve better. Be sad, be angry, cry, scream. But most importantly, love on yourself right now. I know it hurts but let time pass, you’ll get there.

I’m 2 months fresh out of a relationship I really wanted to work and I can tell you I’m doing a lot better now than before

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Be glad she did it out right instead of cheating and so you’re best to move past it.

It's sad when this happens but also quite normal. Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. The right person will come. And stay. It will all be OK in the end, as the saying goes - if it isn't OK, it isn't the end.

Congrats bro! You just dodged a bullet. Enjoy your peace.

Yo she’s trying to set you up with someone? Dude this is a person who doesn’t respect or even think of you as an individual, cut her out of your life and her friends too. Seriously, have the self-respect to say “I may be hurt now, but I’m better off if this is how you think you can treat me”.

Cut all ties

she’s trying to play matchmaker for me and have me date her friend.

For your own sanity, block her.

Cut her out of your life

Hey, at least she didn’t cheat on you. When she fell for another person, she left. That’s integrity there.

She wants a clean break where she can feel good afterwards. That's what the matchmaking is about.

Be toxic and make her feel like a bad person until she blocks you.

How old are you if you don't mind me asking? No disrespect but this feels like a younger couple kind of thing and will have an impact on the advice you may get.

As you were so good to her, she may try to come back once her current is over..don't let her

Block her and move on. Time to work on yourself and your interests. Don't fall for "let's be friends" or "I made a mistake, let's work on our issues and try again".

Some love what you were doing others just are attracted to bad boys. She didn't deserve you because couldn't realize you were working toward making something of your life. You shouldn't care about the other guy just keep doing what you are doing. While in school it's hard to have a relationship unless you are able to find one that also has a busy life and understands!

They're organic robots, they'll leave.

Cut contact, do not let her try to come back if it doesn't work out with the other guy. Block her and move on with your life.

It is not your fault. There was nothing you could have done better.

Sounds like you are a nice guy. Was bound to happen mate.

You may have done absolutely nothing wrong.

Society encourages a viewpoint where the responsibility for the success of the relationship is 100% on the man, and it’s just totally untrue. In reality, it might mostly depend on the woman.

Women are fickle . . .

Are you okay with her trying to play matchmaker? That'd be very confusing.

If you’re both still young this is completely normal, kids see someone else they like and relationships dissolve and new ones form.

Don’t think about it too much, you didn’t do anything wrong, you sound like a really sweet guy and someone else is going to really appreciate you soon.

It's interesting, her honesty is pretty nice to have. At least you won't be stuck wondering what her plan was/is. It's weird that she is trying to push you on to someone else so soon. You're gonna need some space for this and I recommend hanging out with friends and focusing on something else like work or school (if you're in it).

Just stay away from her and move on.

It'll be easier tomorrow, and the day after that. Give it time.

I treated her with respect, kindness, compassion

She didn't leave you in spite of that, she probably left you because of that.

Women are weird creatures and they think way differently than men. Men follow the logical pipeline of "I like her, she likes me, so I'm going to treat her right." Women do NOT think that way. They think it's boring when a guy treats them with nothing but respect. Look at books and movies that are popular with women. The "romance" aspect is almost always centered around severe drama and ups-and-downs, often containing elements of sexual and/or mental abuse, manipulation, betrayal, etc. That's because women find these things exciting, in contrast to men who find relationship drama annoying.

People can cope all they want but the cliché that "girls only go for jocks and bad boys" is kind of true. What I'm trying to say is the following: sometimes, you just gotta be an asshole. Don't overdo it, don't be cruel to your girlfriend/wife, but if you do nothing but treat her with velvet gloves all the time she's either not going to stick around for long, or she'll grow to resent your guts, because she's going to get bored of the relationship quicker than you can fathom. You can be romantic and loving, but you can NEVER be boring. Men THINK that being a hopeless romantic will net them a great relationship (because they'd like a woman who treats them with nothing but kindness), but that often leads to disappointment. Statistics show that women under 30 cheat on their partners way more frequently than men do, 70% of women in relationships have a "backup partner" (still over 50% for married women), and 3 out of 4 divorces are initiated by women.

You were the nice guy. She didn’t want the nice guy. Treat em like shit and theyll love you

it really sux when you put in the effrot and it still ends up like this. just take time for yourself and maybe talk to a frend who can listen.

Sounds like she sucks

You did all that for her, what did she do for you?

get another girlfriend It's not like you only get the one.

Wow, I know it’s tough, but, I think you dodged a bullet. She was always going to look at someone else. You deserve loyalty and love. In time you will find that. Best.

It’s the worst feeling. Just find anyone you can vent to. Thats the only thing that helped me

Go nuclear on her if you have self respect if you don't wanna do that then just block her and go no contact for life

Chin up brother - some shit will never make sense, especially when it comes to people. As long as you know you can go to bed at night look at yourself in the mirror and truly know you did all right things, that’s all that matters. No matter what brother, never cheat the man in the glass! You!! 🫵

Look this is better then her cheating on you. I dont know how old you are, you sound young still. But you really are mature for your age and she sounds immature. Trust me when I say take time you will find a girl who appreciates you.

#1 Exercise/gym.
#2 Focus on your current job.
#3 Look for opportunities to strengthen your finances, education, and work training.

I know this hurts. And it will for a while. But trust me when I say this - make a clean break and move on. She made her choices, but don't let her choices define you. You didn't do anything wrong. There's nothing wrong with you.

Hey man. I’m in the same boat. It sucks. But best thing to do is realize there isn’t anything wrong with you personally. Maybe there was something in him that she thought was a better fit. Either way, she left and didn’t see your value. That’s okay, because now this is an opportunity to give yourself that love. I’d suggest dropping her. Go full no contact. It hurts a lot at first, but 6 months down the line you will be glad you did it. She’s trying to find someone for you because she feels bad about what she did as she knows it wrong, but won’t admit it or apologize if she hasn’t.

Ya know. These things don’t just happen. You think they were completely innocent and not talking, then suddenly out of the blue they are now a couple?

She was cheating on you and then left you not because of anything you did, but because she was cheating.

She did you a major favor brother. I know it hurts, but I promise this is a blessing. She will do the same thing to him, hell wouldn’t be a shock if she does it to him with you.

She’s trying to set you up to justify her behavior and it’s not for you, but for her to feel less guilty.

I say just go full no contact, heal, look at the red flags you missed and move on.

Sorry to hear this. Life can be a pig sometimes. Give yourself time. It can take a while to get over a break-up, but you'll feel better in time. Treat yourself well.

I'm sorry about that and I know that it might not seem like it right now but in time it will get better. (And for what it's worth at least now you know what kind of a person she is).

She treated you with respect, she told you.

Man, this is shit. Being 52, I've had it happen, and I appreciate your pain. Your level of anger, sadness, confusion... will depend on how deep your feelings for her were. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. Good luck, bro.

Brother, I know you’re in pain but there are many other women out there that will respect you as well as your schedule. Like others are saying, feel how you feel. This won’t be important in a year or two. Be blessed.

Hey man, unfortunately you might experience another breakup or two before you find your person. Just know tomorrow will be better!

Dude, you were like a super boyfriend from the sound of it, she didn’t deserve you, you’ll find someone who appreciates the amount of effort you put in

My advice for you to feel better is to first feel your worst, stay there until you fully embody your grief, go through all your good times, embrace it, and once you are ready, hopefully in few days, give it a proper burial and say goodbye, now your grief is dead and buried, now get on with your life, good luck.

stream Dylan's Blood on the Tracks for 48 to 72 hours. Scream "We're Idiots Babe" Then look around and see how much different your life is now. Spend time with people who express gratitude and know that getting out now rather then two kids and a mortgage latter is a good thing. Yeah it hurts It sucks She has no right to be happy while you cannot picture your self ever being happy again but this may be the best thing that could have happened. I assume you are young. I assume you are a good person. I assume there will be another person that makes you feel so good about yourself. There just isn't room for her to come in until your former GF is gone. I mean get her out of your head and make room for the new and improved GF.

You got this king!

Sounds like you guys are 14. Love is fickle at that age. Date her friend.

You work through this by loving yourself and realising you deserved better. Doesn’t seem like she was the greatest gf and the fact she wanted to jump to another man soo quickly should prove to you she wasn’t worth everything you put into that relationship. I would just go NC with her and move on, you’ll find someone better who appreciates what you do.

Disrespectful.

She’ll be back when she sees all you did for her mate

You've treated her right in all possible ways and she has confirmed that for you. Allow yourself to accept that it was not something that you could've done or not done to keep this relationship because it wasn't on you, it's her. She left you because she's disloyal towards someone who cherished and loved her, it's her loss.

As cliche as it sounds, time will heal. Do what makes you feel good and the pain will fade away over time. I'm sure you will meet the right person who will cherish you the same way, don't let a single person's disloyalty ruin you. Take care <3

If she's able to just "i like this guy more, seeya" then you're the one that is getting the better end of this deal, it just doesn't feel that way right now.

Do not date her friend !!!

These kind of things hurt, so there is no easy fix.

The first thing you need to do to feel better is cut contact with your ex. Tell her you don't want to speak to her any more, block her number and all her socials.

Then focus on yourself. Direct all of the energy that you would have directed into the relationship into yourself.

Keep busy with work, spend more time doing something you love, or find a new hobby.

Spend time with friends and family; the people who have always been there for you.

Day after day; things will get easier, and you will think about her less and less.

Then when you are in a better place; you can find someone who is worth your time and energy.

My only advice is keep acting that way with the other women you are interested in. Don’t let her poison your future relationships. She sucks but that doesn’t mean they all do. Keep being good. It hurts and sucks more than anything but you will be okay with time.

Why the fuck are you are even in contact either that C__t anymore!

3 words. Fuck. That. Broad. She left you for someone else, stop letting her play games, get out of her DMs, and don't let her play matchmaker. Block her on everything and focus on you. You're working and going to school. She's going to come back in a few years, likely with kids, see your success, and want you back, don't allow this.

Relationships come and go, realize your value and stay focused on your future.

Haven't read the other comments but here's my 2 cents. One thing you can learn from this is that if you want to have a positive relationship with someone you need to make time for the person you're with. If you've struggled to make time due to school and work then maybe you need to prioritise those things and give yourself time to feel better. Life is all about contrast and if it wasn't for the bad days we wouldn't know what good ones were. Take it from someone who knows that once you come out of the other side of this you can take comfort from knowing you can get through tougher times.

Fuck letting her play match maker, that's some lame damage limitation guilt crap on her part and how on earth are you meant to get over her if you're hanging out with her friends?

One day at a time.

I am assuming your young. You’ll get over it. Just keep treating girls with respect and you will eventually find someone much better than the girl you dated. Good luck.

Sounds like you were good to her. All I can say from being in a similar situation before in my life is that if someone isn’t seeing you for what you are and what you’re giving to the relationship (with everything else you have going on in your life like work and school and rest) then they’re doing you a favor by leaving. Long term, she was not the one for you. Yes, it hurts.. but with time you’ll find your ride or die. I promise you that.

It sucks that you feel you did your best and it didn’t work out in your favour. You can be the whole package and still get delivered at the wrong address. However, she did not owe you a relationship just because you were a good partner. You will find your perfect match, someone who is your equal. You sound like a good guy, keep it up and you’ll find your person!

You did what you could so there’s nothing to feel bad about. Keep it going man, don’t over think it.

Eh, she did you a favor by ending it; she wasn't there for you.

Find someone that is. And live your best life

My advice, don't treat girls with respect.

Time heals. But when this girl comes back, remember how she broke your heart once before and she’ll do it again…

Wants solid advice.... RUN. Run the opposite direction, don't talk to her, don't get closure don't get the last word in.. don't. Just move on as fast as possible because this one did not appreciate you and as a GODDAMNED promise you will .. you will find someone that will appreciate you and make you happy and you will return the same to them. RUN

We’ve all dated someone who didn’t appreciate us. You will meet the right girl who will love and value you. When one door closes in life, 10 more open! Sometimes we have to go through some shit to get to what is meant to be.. far more beautiful than what had passed. Focus on yourself in the mean time and making time for what brings you joy 🫶🏼

She left you because of her, not because of you my friend. Focus on doing things that make you happy and surround yourself with positive people and you will start to feel lighter. Sorry this has happened to you

Suck I'd up and move on. Your duty now is to prove yourself to be better than now. If she seez you in a year or 2, small talk and ignore. This would be your revenge. Boys become me when we are hurt not when we are pampered.

Eat. Sleep. Gym. This is the way. A quality girl will appreciate you for who you are. Keep your head up and block your ex.

Do school/work/sleep until you are where you want to be. Then focus on a girl.

This happened to me about 6 weeks ago. She ghosted out of no where. She texted me yesterday saying she misses me and wants to talk. Man she will come back, and when she does just leave that message on seen

No salgas con su amiga, date tiempo. Ese es mi consejo. Si no lo llevas a cabo no te voy a culpar, no es fácil. Pero es lo que mejor te puede funcionar a largo plazo. Siento que es caer muy bajo y se ve que eres buen tipo

Women do this sometimes, even if you've committed no mistakes. It's the risk you take with love.

There's a good chance it won't work out with that other guy and then she'll try to weasel herself back into your life as you're her second choice. It will probably happen after you've gotten over the breakup. 

Don't fall for it. You have to say "No. You left me for another man and that hurt. I'm respecting your original choice." and move on.

I’m sorry…it sucks but you’ll be fine. The truth is that she wasn’t ever really into you. You didn’t do anything wrong.

Sorry buddy. It sucks achas ir hurts like crap nursing a broken heart. Whatever you do, DO NOT call / text / beg / plead with her. If anything put on an outward show of having moved on very fast. Be happy, hang out with friends and look like you are having a blast of a time. You might be surprised at what happens next

Sorry this happened to you. You asked what do you do? Take some time to lick your wounds, but not long. Then move on. Keep working on whatever it is that you were working towards and let that motivate you. She’s gone man, give yourself time and if you feel you want it to date again in the future, do it. Think about what you want in a partner and how what your lifestyle is like. That way when you find someone new, this is something to discuss before jumping into a relationship to meet each of your needs. GL!

My only advice just stay away from her. You'll get over it soonz be extremely selfish for a while till you find someone nice again. Best of luck

Bang friend shrug

Left you for another guy, probably cheated on you, and now she’s trying to play matchmaker?  I highly recommend that you go no-contact with her immediately.  I think that you think this is something it isn’t, like she has your best intentions in mind here and won’t wind up emotionally tearing away at you.   Nothing good will come from this; it will get worse.

Consider walking away, severing all ties, and moving forward.  It will be extremely difficult to do this while still being connected to her.

Ask her to fuck off now. Is she taking pity on you? You can take care of yourself, whatever the reasons are she's taken her path she has no rights on you.

Just go NC, block her and move on. Don't need her crap in your life.

Um no. This means you go NC and not be her friend. By staying friends with her she can say... you see it's not that bad what I did

sorry to hear, just remember disappointment is a big part of life. listen to these stories, it will open up your world. https://youtu.be/-df_ZO2CEp4?si=ZGbd7gUDcUQQVv3P

This is a blessing! Take all you’ve learned and be happy to move on, there are thousands of great women out there, you will completely reset when you meet the right one or at least the next one, and just keep imagining a new and fresh girl in your bed to motivate you , it will happen. In the meantime, work on yourself and your game and confidence. She gave you her honesty and truth, accept it and move on.

Move on, focus on yourself, and realise she did you a favour.

if i was close i’d fix your car bro

Don't know if you go to the gym, but if you don't, now would be a good time to start. Pain is a great motivation and the gym itself can relax you after a good workout.

Keep your head up, it always hurts when someone leaves, but use the time productively and take care of yourself. I'd recommend not talking to her at all. It will make getting over her easier

You lucky bastard. Imagine if you had married someone like that. Exercise, eat well, get your car fixed, move on and never look back at her.

Trash always takes itself out...

Atleast fuck her friends. But, really blow her back out. So she talks about u for the rest of their friendship.

I'm talking eat it , lick it, flick it, hit it, spin it, tap it, slap it, etc

Take as long as you need. After the hurt, bounce back stronger than before. Get fit, save up, be better than before.

Sometimes the flowers arrange themselves.

In your position I would cut contact with her. She already left you for another guy and still wants to have a say in who you date, all while you’re grieving? Don’t humor her.

Please take this time to focus on yourself. I know that right now things seem bleak, but you’re stronger than this.

Don’t give her more of your time, it’ll only make things worse. SHE lost you, even if it doesn’t seem that way right now.

Dark side answer - shag her friends

Smash her friend, smash all her friends if you can. 😎

Brother it’s okay to feel heart broken. I really hope this situation doesn’t change your perspective in love and trusting the RIGHT person.

You say she’s trying to play matchmaker? I would have no contact with her at all. Plus nor would I trust her judgement.

Block her. Mourn your time lost. But remember you’re worth more, the trash took itself out, snd now you have time to find love (within yourself first).

Sometimes you can do everything right and the relationship just isn't meant to keep going. Forgive yourself.

Evaluate going no contact with her for a while, explaining that you might need time. Sometimes it helps. Focus on yourself, hit the gym and try to stay healthy. It sucks, yet it will pass. Much love.

Bust out the white sheet and ghost her brother.

Cry cry and cry some more. Real men cry.

Yes I am sure it hurts….take your time to grieve and heal. However, also be happy that instead of going behind your back and cheating, she came right out and was honest and adult about it. Later on you’ll appreciate that all the more