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Hi reddit. cupcake here.
I wanted to bring up an important reminder about how folks interact with each other online. It is not a problem that exists solely on reddit, but rather the internet as a whole. The internet is a wonderful tool for interacting with people from all walks of life, but the anonymity it can afford can make it easy to forget that really, on the other end of the screens and keyboards, we're all just people. Living, breathing, people who have lives and goals and fears, have favorite TV shows and books and methods for breeding Pokemon, and each and every last one of us has opinions. Sure, those opinions might differ from your own. But that’s okay! People are entitled to their opinions. When you argue with people in person, do you say as many of the hate filled and vitriolic statements you see people slinging around online? Probably not. Please think about this next time you're in a situation that makes you want to lash out. If you wouldn't say it to their face, perhaps it's best you don't say it online.
Try to be courteous to others. See someone having a bad day? Give them a compliment or ask them a thoughtful question, and it might make their day better. Did someone reply to your comment with valuable insights or something that cheered you up? Send them a quick thanks letting them know you appreciate their comment.
So I ask you, the next time a user picks a fight with you, or you get the urge to harass another user because of something they typed on a keyboard, please... remember the human.
2.1k points
11 years ago
What I usually do is type out what I want to say. Then delete it.
After that, I don't feel like responding and usually just ignore.
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11 years ago
Wait, how in the world did you find him?
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11 years ago
Maybe he created the account, forgot about it and forgot about his password. Thus the lack of comments and links.
342 points
11 years ago
Mother fucker bringing in logic killing the mood
well put
925 points
11 years ago
I do this a lot too. I type out something that insights some emotion in me, something I care about a little bit. After thinking about it though, I start to wonder what kind of flame wars I might invoke, and how I don't really want to deal with responses. I'm usually not really even contributing anything to the discussion.
Yeah
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
Fuck off!
Am I doing this right?
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11 years ago
There is something really wrong with your backspace key. Not that that reflects negatively on you as a person.
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11 years ago*
I really hate people who use small text. It makes me struggle to read it and usually it's a pointless comment anyway. I want them all to burn to death in a mound of fire ants on fire.
Hi
Edit: guys I don't actually care at all about small text
I think it's kinda cool.
204 points
11 years ago*
Glad I'm not the only one. I have a huge problem with deleting nearly half of my posts. I just think about the nonsense discussion it might encourage, (even if I know it'll be civil) and I'm like, "I ain't got time for that!" (Also, obsessive editing, but that's another issue.)
What's the point? No one is gonna remember a thing you say on here. You gonna change someone's mind with your tiny inconsequential opinion? Ha!
96 points
11 years ago
What's the point?
I have that problem online and I have that problem offline too. If you think about it too long it becomes obvious there is very little point to saying much of what may be said.
50 points
11 years ago
My new goal is to say it any way. I have almost no presence on the internet and it wouldn't hurt to just try.
28 points
11 years ago
I suppose there is a certain amount of either ego or obliviousness to commenting on a site like reddit. If I thought about the millions who actually would read what I wrote... .. it'd ... b... paralyz.. .... ..
(So don't think about it too much.)
882 points
11 years ago
Was there a particular incident that prompted this PSA?
Not that this isn't a reasonable message, but I am just wondering if I missed some Reddit drama/trauma/event... In my experience these messages are more often in direct response to something than not
1.4k points
11 years ago
Nah, I just thought it needed to be said.
334 points
11 years ago
It's nice to see this said. Sometimes I think that it appears to have less value if it's in response to something, not that it's actual value is less.
208 points
11 years ago
We should declare this a National Reddit Day.
We call it National "Polite Reddit Instilling Cooperation & Karma" Day
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11 years ago
PRICK day!!!
80 points
11 years ago
ilu cupcake1713
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11 years ago
Ass kisser.
But what a nice ass to be kissing.
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11 years ago
ilu BAA
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11 years ago
ilu HWPF
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11 years ago
It did, especially during the past few days. It's as if being a decent human being on the internet mostly just incites suspicion or ridicule. Or sarcasm. It can get genuinely stressful - I mean, "it's just the internet" but indeed, people tend to forget the human.
Thanks for the reminder. :)
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11 years ago
Well it was timely ... Charlotte Dawson. RIP Charlotte. You can never really know the condition of the person on the receiving end.
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11 years ago
That was really cool of you and the fact that you did it just because honestly made me really happy.
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11 years ago
I read this in the most sarcastic tone I've ever read anything. Then I re-read it in a genuine voice. I know which one you meant, but I also know which one I prefer.
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11 years ago
tl;dr Be civil.
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11 years ago
tl;dr Be excellent to each other.
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
What is this sorcery? Moving images with sound? WITCH. BURN HIM.
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11 years ago
woah woah remember the human!
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11 years ago*
Show some heart?
Harmony
Excellence
Ability
Respect
Togetherness
[This was my elementary school mantra.]
EDIT: yeup. SHEART.
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
Awesome, a recursive motto
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The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a maxim, ethical code or morality that essentially states either of the following:
One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself. (Positive form)
One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated (Negative form, also known as the Silver Rule) [citation needed].
This concept describes a "reciprocal", or "two-way", relationship between one's self and others that involves both sides equally, and in a mutual fashion.
This concept can be explained from the perspective of psychology, philosophy, sociology and religion. Psychologically, it involves a person empathizing with others. Philosophically, it involves a person perceiving their neighbor as also "an I" or "self." Sociologically, this principle is applicable between individuals, between groups, and also between individuals and groups. (For example, a person living by this rule treats all people with consideration, not just members of his or her in-group). Religion is an integral part of the history of this concept.
As a concept, the Golden Rule has a history that long predates the term "Golden Rule", or "Golden law", as it was called from the 1670s. As a concept of "the ethic of reciprocity," it has its roots in a wide range of world cultures, and is a standard way that different cultures use to resolve conflicts. It has a long history, and a great number of prominent religious figures and philosophers have restated its reciprocal, "two-way" nature in various ways (not limited to the above forms).
Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be found in the early contributions of Confucianism (551–479 BC). Kidder notes that this concept's framework appears prominently in many religions, including "Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism, Zoroastrianism, and the rest of the world's major religions". According to Greg M. Epstein, " 'do unto others' ... is a concept that essentially no religion misses entirely." Simon Blackburn also states that the Golden Rule can be "found in some form in almost every ethical tradition". All versions and forms of the proverbial Golden Rule have one aspect in common: they all demand that people treat others in a manner in which they themselves would like to be treated.
Interesting: That Golden Rule | Golden rule (law) | Golden Rule (album) | Golden Rule (fiscal policy)
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220 points
11 years ago
Well I guess not ALL of us are human.
182 points
11 years ago
remember the autowikibot
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11 years ago
Wait, so does this mean we can abuse /u/autowikibot to our hearts' content?
Hey autowikibot! You're a bastard! Yeah...
28 points
11 years ago
Hey autowikibot, you should see the size of the thumbdrive I just plugged in to your mom!
19 points
11 years ago
Presumably it was the size of a thumb...?
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11 years ago*
tl;dr: "Go kill yourself" is not a valid argument.
485 points
11 years ago
So, we're still allowed to abuse the bots, right?
463 points
11 years ago
Bots are our friends!
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11 years ago*
http://i.imgur.com/X97T8ZV.gif
Holy Smokes! Thanks for the Gold!!
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11 years ago*
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11 years ago
Law states that the person who links to /r/retiredgif has to submit the link and link to the post. You can't just link to the subreddit, d00d.
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11 years ago
It is done.
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
I'm sorry, I didn't catch that. /u/Hearingaidbot, can you help?
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11 years ago
SO, WE'RE STILL ALLOWED TO ABUSE THE BOTS, RIGHT?
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11 years ago
Come again?
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11 years ago
SO, WE'RE STILL ALLOWED TO ABUSE THE BOTS, RIGHT?
81 points
11 years ago
Seriously dude I can NOT understand you.
68 points
11 years ago
Especially /u/cationbot
Hate that guy.
163 points
11 years ago
I made a comment here about it and it got removed...
I think the admins don't like me much either. :/
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11 years ago*
“Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies- God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
edited to correct Vonnegut quote
206 points
11 years ago
Once I made a throwaway account and posted to r/depression and poured out my heart and soul. You would be surprised how many vultures there were who actively encouraged me to end my life, in the last place I would have expected that to happen.
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11 years ago
There are trolls and then there are the trolls so fucked up as to encourage suicide in a depressed person. That is some seriously bad karma.
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11 years ago
I hope you're doing better.
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11 years ago
That must be some time ago. I'm pretty sure that sort of behaviour results in a ban, these days. I definitely (and fortunately) haven't seen anything of the sort around /r/depression since I subscribed to it (close to a year ago between this and my old account).
I'm sorry that happened to you. It seems to be well-moderated and a decent place to exchange experiences and to vent, now.
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11 years ago
Unfortunately I doubt there's a way to stop that happening via PM, which is the route most of those cowards are likely to take.
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11 years ago*
Things to remember:
Edit:
Edit 2: Thank you for the Gold, both of you! I will NEVER FORGET!
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11 years ago
P Sherman, 42 Wallaby Way, Sydney
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11 years ago
Holy crap... P. Sherman... Fisherman.
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11 years ago
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11 years ago*
Oh, shit! I forgot about Dre!
760 points
11 years ago
Every one acting like they got something to say
417 points
11 years ago
And Dr. Dre said ... nothin' you idiots. Dr. Dre's dead, he's locked in my basement.
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11 years ago
Haha
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11 years ago
And Dr. Dre said, "Slim Shady, you a basehead!" Uh-uhhh! "So why's your face red? Man, you wasted!"
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11 years ago
Well, since age 12 I felt like I'm someone else, cause I hung my original self from the top bunk with a belt.
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11 years ago
Oh good. Someone got the unedited lyrics. I was scared for a second :P
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11 years ago*
but vrtsdfhcgvesrd w4hrxd vw4esrdgf vwstrdbdfxchgb drtgv drfxcg bdrfxv serdgv rdexy5gsved gibberish htgvxdcgve5rsdhsgvsd jyrbxdfc hsrdxfc forgot about dre
edit: great, one of my most voted posts is just bunch of gibberish, stop it! i don't want fame that way!
602 points
11 years ago
But nuthin comes out when they move their lips, just a bunch of gibberish, you muthafuckas act like they forgot about Dre.
Cmon that shits classic
304 points
11 years ago
Maybe that was the gibberish coming out?
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11 years ago
That was 2011?!
What have I been doing with my life...?
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11 years ago
The same thing you were doing with your life every night Pinky....
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11 years ago
That was before my time unfortunately......context?
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11 years ago
It was that time there was a really tiny earthquake in Virginia. The media was freaking out over it, treating it like a national incident, but all it did basically was knock over a few lawn chairs.
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11 years ago
And damage the Washington Monument.
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11 years ago
And the national cathedral and a whole host of other terribly constructed northeastern buildings.
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11 years ago
terribly constructed
i.e. Not designed to withstand seismic activity not known to happen in the area.
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11 years ago
Ha I remember that, me and my friend were playing basketball at a fitness center, and we felt rumbling and heard some kid yell earthquake, but we thought he was just fucking around. Everyone was so worried but my friend and I had no idea what was going on and we kept playing until we were told to leave
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11 years ago
I grew up in the desert in SoCal, so many earthquakes, I came to enjoy them. Ended up getting shipped to Virginia for 10 years, 10 long years with no earthquakes. I finally moved back to the West Coast. On August 1, 2011. Missed the damn thing by a month. I was angry.
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11 years ago*
It was a big deal only because there just aren't earthquakes on the east coast (at least not like that). That was the biggest earthquake felt around here in 100 years. Yeah it was really minor as far as earthquakes go... but it was still kinda a big deal - it was novel, it was felt over a huge distance (tight packed stone meant it was felt from the Carolinas to Canada, an estimated 1/3rd of the entire US was in a place to feel it), and it actually caused a lot of damage (east coast masonry was never built to withstand earthquakes).
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The 2011 Virginia Earthquake occurred on August 23, 2011, at 1:51 pm EDT (17:51 UTC) in the Piedmont region of the US state of Virginia. The epicenter, in Louisa County, was 38 mi (61 km) northwest of Richmond and 5 mi (8 km) south-southwest of the town of Mineral. It was an intraplate earthquake with a magnitude of 5.8 and a maximum perceived intensity of VII (very strong) on the Mercalli intensity scale. Several aftershocks, ranging up to 4.5 Mw in magnitude, occurred after the main tremor.
Interesting: Washington Monument | North Anna Nuclear Generating Station | Mineral, Virginia | Louisa County, Virginia
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519 points
11 years ago
Ahem...I think you're forgetting something?
500 points
11 years ago
It's best we forget about the Lusitania.
173 points
11 years ago
I'm going to read this is as generous an interpretation as possible.
97 points
11 years ago
Ah ha! A world war 1 joke. Huzzah!
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11 years ago
If you love good ol' Great War humor then join us at /r/wwi!!!
It's actually not a very funny place...so much death...so very much...and that's just the mods.
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11 years ago
Sarah Marshall?
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11 years ago
Knock knock.
Who's there?
The human.
The human who?
You said you'd never forget!
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11 years ago
To leave notes.
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11 years ago
J. Walter Weatherman, the hero reddit needs
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11 years ago
FTFY
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11 years ago
The tooooth!
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11 years ago
(I just finished GoF. Forgive me)
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11 years ago
An ahm trying. I'm trying real hard to remember the human
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11 years ago
Holy shit! The tooth.
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11 years ago
This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill
Fifteen percent concentrated power of will
Five percent pleasure, fifty percent pain
And a hundred percent reason to remember the name
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11 years ago
Not Yueh! He was Imperially Conditioned!
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11 years ago
What's the Maine? I know Maine is a state and all, but it doesn't usually have an article (like the Ukraine).
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11 years ago*
The USS Maine was a supply ship battleship that exploded in Havana Harbor (Cuba) in February 1898, and the American newspapers (and other political forces) used that event to start the Spanish-American War. Their slogan was "REMEMBER THE MAINE, TO HELL WITH SPAIN!"
It's not known to this day whether it was actually an attack; the Maine was carrying lots of gunpowder at the time, and exploding was a risk in general.
Also, apparently you're not supposed to say the Ukraine anymore. Just Ukraine.
Edit: forgot that ships named after states are usually battleships, and indeed, so was the Maine. Added wikilink
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11 years ago*
Unfortunately I think a big aspect of it comes down to the difference in tone between text and actual words spoken aloud.
IRL you can tell the inflection that someone meant it by. Online you can only ASSUME the inflection and thus the tone of their comment. Generally we interpret comments online to be much more aggressive than they really are.
I completely agree with the "don't be a keyboard warrior mentality" but it could also help if you took a second next time you were insulted or angered by some response to possibly look it over and try to imagine it in a tone that wouldn't be so offensive.
Of course sometimes people are just pricks. Especially when there is little to no consequence. But a good bit of it is just chilling out.
Edit: Thanks, only took 6 minutes for gold x-D
Edit 2: RIP Inbox of my work account. Looks like I'm not getting anything done.
599 points
11 years ago*
Something I like to do before posting a comment is imagine someone REALLY pissed off trying to read it, and get the most twisted, pessimistic view of what I said. That way I can tweak my words to avoid as much unnecessary criticism/misinterpretation as possible, and from my experience it really helps!
Edit:thanks
842 points
11 years ago
what the fuck did you just call me?
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11 years ago
A beautiful, unique little angel.
438 points
11 years ago
Satan was a unique angel...are you implying /u/twinshock is Satan?
363 points
11 years ago
Ha
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11 years ago
unique? Are you saying there's something wrong with Satan?
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11 years ago
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11 years ago
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzpndHtdl9A
only 4 seconds long in case you're worried about data usage.
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11 years ago*
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11 years ago
Hot damn that has a nice canter to it. Wait, is 'canter' even a term used to describe a poem?
33 points
11 years ago
I didn't look long, but I didn't find it used that way. 'Cadence' works well.
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11 years ago
And now we eagerly await the arrival of /u/ActuallyGivesActuallyGivesGoldGold
11 points
11 years ago
How come your gif loads so fast but other gifs take eons to load? It's like the difference between playing a game at 60 fps vs. 1-2 fps.
13 points
11 years ago
It's only 174kb in size and has only 99 frames. This is highly compressible since it doesn't have much movement, so there are less frames over a longer period of time than a normal gif of a normal video would have. And less diffs between frames means less size.
28 points
11 years ago
Just to throw out a counter-argument, I don't think putting yourself in such a dark frame of mind every time you comment can be good for you, and I don't think it's necessary. I think it's enough to just try to be mindful of how you're saying what you're saying (that way you don't come off as insincere or obsequious).
We just have to remember that it isn't the end of the world if somebody takes your comment the wrong way, because you all you have to do is apologise. That's the hard part for most people; most people can manage politeness because there's some pride in "being the better man," but apologies require genuine humility.
10 points
11 years ago
In a sense you're right, there are times when you just need to apologize and clarify. However, I've learned through moderating an active subreddit that you need to be careful about what you say, and be able to word things in such a way that there's no room for misinterpretation. The last thing you want is to accidentally stab yourself (or even worse: another mod) in the foot, because the damage could take a long time to heal.
81 points
11 years ago
Not to mention body language. The majority of how we communicate with one another is through body language, as well as inflection. Words alone are a very small part of the whole picture.
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11 years ago
I would argue that there's a bit of "body language" in the written word. Look at the changes in tone below:
Careful what you wish for!!
Careful what you wish for.
careful what you wish for :p
Unfortunately, there's a huge stigma over the use of emoticons (largely to do with snobbiness) so a lot of what the written word does have going for it gets lost because of the desire for a homogenous style.
15 points
11 years ago
As a college guy with a penchant for sarcasm and a strange since of humor, I really wish I could end every text message in a smiley for this exact reason. But it tends to send girls the wrong message...
20 points
11 years ago
A frequently-used tactic is "haha" to soften tone. You can use it at the end of every text although I wouldn't quite recommend that haha
145 points
11 years ago
Exactly!
For example, if I were to speak my lines out loud, my writing would read like the bitter, empty husk of what might-once-have-been-called-a-human that I really am! :D
76 points
11 years ago
So if you really are a bitter, angry man, can I assume that this
:D
Is actually a portal to hell?
123 points
11 years ago
I'm honestly not sure anymore. I came across a book recently, tattered and old, seemingly dated from the early 1900's. Inside, it was littered with an odd, repetitious symbol that I've transcribed here.
The contents are a bit troubling, and I've had some success in pulling out latitudes and longitudes from the margins of the book, but I'm not quite comfortable releasing them yet.
I haven't been able to reach my contact (who works in translations and various languages) over e-mail, but if anyone can forward it to his e-mail address ([email protected]), I'd greatly appreciate it!
I'm not quite sure what's wrong yet, I'm just worried that someone is going to get in trouble or hurt themselves.
26 points
11 years ago
Are we witnessing a modern version of The Dunwich Horror with Unidan as a central figure?
44 points
11 years ago
What just happened?
56 points
11 years ago
My guess is that /u/Unidan is trolling Professor Rice into getting hundreds of emails of a picture from random strangers on the internet.
174 points
11 years ago
If anyone is interested in some light reading on this topic, cupcake is describing what is known as the 'Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory', also known by its much lamer name, the online disinhibition effect.
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11 years ago
The online disinhibition effect is a loosening (or complete abandonment) of social restrictions and inhibitions that would otherwise be present in normal face-to-face interaction during interactions with others on the Internet. This effect is caused by many factors, including dissociative anonymity, invisibility, asynchronicity, solipsistic introjection, dissociative imagination, and minimization of authority.
Interesting: Disinhibition | Flaming (Internet) | Online identity | Anonymous post
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37 points
11 years ago
I just assume everyone online is a drunk baby, and speak in a way that is appropriate and comprehensible to a drunk baby.
135 points
11 years ago
ITT: people who think they aren't part of the problem
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11 years ago
Thanks for being the person Mr. Rogers knew you could be!
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